What Happy Is

How We Help Our Son Through Headaches/Migraines

2012-01-23T20:25:00.003-07:00

I figured it might be helpful to those reading if I shared what we do for childhood headaches/migraines. I know that other families must experience them too. As an adult who had migraines as a child, I've figured out some things from remembering what my mother did and other things I've learned. Here are a few things I've learned over the last few months. When my son gets a headache or worse, a migraine, we:

1.) Validate that he knows his body by taking action and believing him, everytime
2.) Stop everything I'm doing, everything, but calmly
3.) Breath with him, "in your nose and out your mouth" slowly
4.) Medicate according to the doctor's recommendation (Since I'm not a Dr. I won't advise you on how to do that)
5.) Give him a nice big glass of water
6.) Sit with him for atleast 30 minutes while he lays down and we relax
7.) A cool face cloth on his forehead
8.) Turn out the lights or close the blinds

Daily things I do regardless of whether or not he's experiencing headaches that day:

1.) Keep bags in the bathroom garbage cans, so they can be quickly removed and transformed into upchuck buckets at a moments notice.
2.) Ensure one room in the house can become the "dark room" quickly
3.) Ginger Ale and forks ~ It eases the stomach, but only if it isn't bubbly
4.) Keep a spare change of clothes in his backpack at all times (migraines with neaseau can appear quickly)
5.) Keep extra medicine at the Grandparents house!
6.) Always ensure he wears sunglasses when outside or in the car
7.) Talk about it as positively and honestly as possible.
8.) Keep the settings on one tv a little darker. Television can be a wonderful distraction from the discomfort
9.) Keep bedtime and length of sleep consistent. It's best if bedtime is early enough that they can wake up on their own in the morning. Lack of sleep is a big trigger.
10.) Keep carpet stain remover on hand at all times

We've also had Morgan's eyes tested again, just to be sure. Glasses are ordered and on the way next week. I have high hopes that they will lessen the effects of his migraines and also make them less common. One less trigger is always a move in the right direction.

I'm also working on finding some fun, kid yoga to help his body learn how to process stress in a healthy way ~ the working on part is that I'm trying to convince him it's fun and cool. So far he's not buying it. ;)

Here are some links that I've found helpful:
http://www.bellaireneurology.com/headaches/migr_childhood.html
http://health.howstuffworks.com/pregnancy-and-parenting/parenting/your-childs-headaches-may-be-migraines1.htm
http://www.migrainepage.com/topics/childhood.html

Great Video on the Gay Rights Movement in America

2012-01-17T10:33:00.000-07:00

The above video originally came to my attention on Facebook, when it was shared by George Tekei. I am thankful that he shared it and I hope that everyone will watch it and learn from it. We are all equal in God's eyes, because we are beautifully and wonderfully made. It is my hope that the villification will end, because it will be drowned out by the sounds of love! I am proud to live in a country that recognizes the equality of love.

I Choose Trust Instead of Hasty Conclusions

2012-01-13T14:58:00.000-07:00

I know I'm guilty of jumping to conclusions as I'm sure we've all been guilty of it from time to time. This time it's some of the Canadian people in general as a result of the media, jumping to conclusions about the Conservative governments stand on gay marriage. They tried to accuse the government of using backdoor ways to invalidate the legal marriage of over 5,000 non-resident same-sex couples.

Hmmmmm...well it doesn't really seem that way to me. It seems to me like the law didn't take the legality of future actions of marriage, such as divorce, into account when it was drafted. It also seems to me like a very rational government response to fix an obviously glaring flaw in that law and how it doesn't line up with each other and how's there's a lack of consistency.

I understand why people are so skiddish and nervous about their right to be married and stay that way. After all, it wouldn't have been the first time in the last few years that a country, state, or any other place has reversed marriage equality. The problem is however, Canada didn't reverse or change any laws. Nothing actually happened. All that happened was the flaw in the law was brought to the foreground and now the law is being rectified.

We should be commending our Prime Minister for sticking to his word and respecting the democratic process that enacted marriage equality in Canada in the first place. He is not taking away anyone's rights, as a matter of fact he and his Justice Minister are doing the exact opposite and strengthening the law to provide proper protection for same-sex couples who marry here, but do not reside here. Although I haven't agreed with every legislation I do agree with most. This one will be no different. They are doing a great job and I say good for them. Good for them for sticking to their guns and showing Canadians that they aren't the big bad wolf that people sometimes make them out to be.

http://www.theglobeandmail.com/news/politics/justice-minister-declares-all-same-sex-marriages-legal-and-valid/article2301691/

A Welcome Challenge from the Honest Rev. Hawkes

2012-01-06T12:21:00.001-07:00

I just read this and I had to share it, The United Church Observer interview with Rev. Brent Hawkes, by Ken Gallinger. Although I've mentioned him on more than one occasion, for those of you who don't know, Rev. Hawkes is the senior pastor of Metropolitan Community Church of Toronto, a vibrant church congregation in the heart of Toronto. I have attended there services whenever I've been in T.O. and I also have family who are active members of MCCT. Since I'm prone to a possible bias, because I simply love what Rev. Hawkes has done, I carefully read the interview. I think that Rev. Hawkes made some excellent points and challenges to the United Church of Canada as a whole. He answered some challenging questions about MCCT with grace, honesty, and respect. I must say that I agree with a lot of what he had to say.

The United Church of Canada does have work to do. I believe that the UC recognizes that work and is in active, forward motion towards that change. I've seen and been to many, many inclusive Affirming United congregations. I also believe or more hope that, over time, all congregations will become affirming, eventually. Some may take decades, but with grace and perserverence United Church congregations will realize that declaring themselves affirming is not only for "gay" inclusion, but it's a statement of inclusion for ALL peoples. It's a statement of who they are as a congregation. I've seen that all United Church congregations hold true to the affirming statement, but have yet to declare they are affirming, either because no one has brought it up in that congregation or because they understandably, yet wrongly believe that it's some sort of "special" designation that may alienate the community. Some may even be fearful of being known as the church that accepts gay people. Once these congregations get past this fear they will see that to be a part of an affirming congregation in the United Church is to live what they are already practicing. The Affirming Statement includes people of all sexual preferences and identities, yes, and it also includes people of all physical abilities, race, gender, developmental abilities, and the list goes on and on.

I ask you, if you have not yet become an affirming community as a church, what are you afraid of? Are you not open and inclusive of all God's people? As a person who has attended many Sunday services at many churches and many United Churches, I have seen that you are inclusive of all God's people, so why not own it? There is freedom in owning what your congregation stands for and who your congregation is in the community. Once you proclaim it, that's when the people will come, because they will see your honesty and they will feel your love, the same unconditional love given by God!

Isaiah 56:7 "My house shall be called a house of prayer for all peoples"
~You know it, you preach it, you live it, so own it!

The Metcalf Motto for January is...

2012-01-04T14:59:00.000-07:00

It's a very windy day in Airdrie and it's left me realizing that I haven't blogged in awhile. Please excuse the overuse of the word "crap" in the following...thanks ;)

We've been busy adjusting to the new plan and it's going very well. After a few weeks of keeping a food journal for Morgan I've been faced with the realization that we've been feeding him a load of crap on a regular basis. As a result of this horrifying revelation, today I emptied the fridge from all the crap that was in it, anything chocolate and every condiment that was expired. I left the table syrup, but that's only until we get to the store to buy real maple syrup to replace it. Adam has been doing an awesome job with the grocery shopping too. He picked up lots of things that are "normal" kid food, but it's all preservative free, dye free, and all the other nasty stuff free. I'm so very excited and Morgan's been doing very well adjusting back to the way he used to eat. He can have as much fruit as he wants. There are zero limits on fruit. He's loving his all natural fruit bottom yogurt, no sugar added I might add. We've got natural hotdogs, dye/preservative/sugar free mac 'n' cheese, unprocessed meats. I'm lucky that Canadian milk and cheese is already hormone free, but I do plan on looking into dye free cheese or maybe going organic for him. The steps we've taken so far are great and I'm so glad that everyone is on board with helping our wee lad.

Tomorrow I'm emptying everything out of the pantry. Anything that is crap is garbage, unless it can be used by another family or something. I wonder though, why is it acceptable to donate our crappy food to people? If it's not healthy enough for us then why is it healthy enough for a family that has less? It seems strange to me, but I also can't throw out perfectly good food if someone else is willing to eat it. I think I'll stream line the candy that I come across, because I know there's A LOT of it. Instead of throwing it all out maybe I can freeze some of it for next Halloween or something. I don't know, but it seems a waste to chuck it all; however, if it's the difference between throwing it all out or having my son still eat it and then get sick later from it, well then Hello Garbage!

The Metcalf motto for this month is....If it's crap don't eat it!

Challenges are Opportunities!

2011-12-16T09:17:00.000-07:00

With about a week to go before we are graced with the joy that is Christmas morning, I must say that we've had a challenging few weeks around here. Now, challenges are sometimes looked at negatively, but I say challenges in a positive way. A challenge is more like an opportunity to learn, adjust, grow, and maybe even seek action on something important.

It's all in how you look at it. We've been adjusting to the blessing that is my new part-time job. It is a wonderful opportunity to learn how to ensure that all is taken care of and I'm finding it quite a smooth transition. I think my little man is easing into it well, too. I know that it will all fall into place according to what is meant to be. All I have to do is show up and do my absolute best and the rest is taken care of, in the loving control of my Creator.

The last couple of weeks we've also had what I thought was a bad cold, but is actually considered the flu. By 'we' I mean the whole family. It's not a terrible one by any stretch of the imagination, but it is a lingering one. The daily grind of it all is what's challenging, but the opportunity that's come out of this challenge is that we now know that Morgan has migraines. Migraines are why he's been having recurrent tummy troubles this year. Even if it's not super duper news, it is what it is and I have a lot of knowledge about migraines as I've had them since I was a young child too. What a great thing it is that I know what to do for him, to help him. Although it's not something we can forsee the outcome of, it is something we can treat and that's worth it's weight in gold!!!

Another part of this silly little virus has been that my coughing has now delivered me with the gift of laryngitis. Most people wouldn't consider laryngitis a gift, but as someone who is presented with it regularly (atleast every year, but usually more) I can say, "Hi, oh...I'm not allowed to talk right now? Oh, well okay. I guess I'll rest then and choose my communications more carefully." The gift that is laryngitis forces me to take a bit of time out for myself and take care of my throat. Talking is one of my favourite things and so is singing, so if refraining from speaking is what I need to do so I can do the things I love later, I say "Okay, whatever I need then!"

Through all of this, my dear, sweet husband has been a little sicky too, but it hasn't slowed him down in the least. He's a busy guy taking care of everyone and resting in between. He's been super supportive while we, as a family adjust to Mom working a few days a week. My wonderful husband's challenge this week has graced me with the opportunity to see how wonderful he is and just how fortunate I am to have him. I see how fortunate I am to have him even more, since we lost a very good friend last week to pancreatic cancer. The example that our friend and his wife showed, throughout his illness was nothing less than inspiring. The challenge that grief presents has opened me to seeing, again, just how amazing it is that I get to have this love! I'm very lucky!

I hope that you will find the opportunities inside your challenges. I promise you, they are there even if they're hidden. The challenge is worth it all, when we see the opportunity and do whatever it is we need to do to tip our hat to the blessing that is that challenge.

I Had to Share the Sean Quigley Video

2011-12-05T11:14:00.001-07:00

Sean Quigley's CTV Interview link

I just had to share this guy, Sean Quigley's rendition and video of The Little Drummer Boy. He's just so happy through out and delivers the message of playing for Jesus in such an honest, beautiful way!!! I also love his Canadian Mittens...lol

I Couldn't Have Said it Better...

2011-12-01T17:06:00.001-07:00

I finally saw this today and I must say that in my own experience as a daughter of gay & lesbian parents, I couldn't agree more! Mr. Wahls expressed what I try to express in my daily life. My parents sexual orientation has no bearing on how loved and supported I was. My parents are my parents and they did a great job. I'm happy, healthy, married, a mother, university educated, and I even have a wonderful job with my church. I am by all accounts, successful! My parents produced a child that they can be proud of, just like this young man's parents did. They have a well spoken gentleman in their corner. We are all fortunate to have him speaking up about what an LGBT family is really like.

We are and always will be a normal family! We are no different and like here in Canada, families like ours deserve the same right to marry and live in-love, together, equal.

Faith Based Education in Public Schools ~ a Partnership

2011-11-16T21:58:00.001-07:00

Tonight I had the pleasure of attending an info night for a Christian program option with the Rocky View School District in Airdrie. Until a few months ago I didn't know it was possible to for a public school to have a Christian option. When I was looking into schools for Morgan and where we live I stumbled on info for Christian Program choices with RVS. There are currently two schools offering the program. One in Cochrane and one in NE Calgary. When I read about them I told Adam how I hoped that one day there would be that choice in Airdrie too.

Well, earlier this year I read an article in the Echo, Christian program a go. I was very excited. So I've kept my eyes and ears open since June, waiting patiently for more info. Tonight I got that info and I was very encouraged.

From my understanding, it is a public school with a Christian program, similar to how some schools have english and french immersion programs in one school. They will be following the Lutheran belief structure of Christianity, but are open to all children of all faith backgrounds. As long as they receive 30 registrations for the September 2012 start, the program is a go. I personally have no doubt they will acheive that number.

I remember how small Whitefield Christian Schools were when it first opened. We were so small that our classes fit in the basement of our church. Back then it was still called Whitefield Christian Junior Academy. It was only 2 or 3 years into the school, that the first school building was bought. Later the school grew to a new building being built on the adjacent property, with the addition of all grades. It was amazing. I was fortunate to attend from grade three through to the end of grade five and it shaped me forever! My mother knew it was the place for us, eventhough it was a private school and she was on a fixed income. How she did it, I just don't know, but she did and I'm forever thankful.

My family and I are still in the talking stages of this opportunity. I'm hopeful and encouraged that it's even a choice. Wow! What a way we've come where faith based learning can be included in public education!!!

For more info:

Shepherd of the Hills Lutheran Church ~ click on Christian School
Shepherd of the Hills Airdrie Lutheran Church Facebook group

Rocky View Schools ~ 403-945-4000 (I believe the Shepherd of the Hills Lutheran Program will be added to their website at a later date)

The First of the Holiday Schedules is now Ready!

2011-11-15T22:51:00.001-07:00

I am happy to announce the CBC Holiday Schedule for 2011 is now here! Horray! I'm getting my calenday out right now and planning Family Movie Nights for the month of December :)

Why I Re-introduced Make-up!

2011-11-13T20:39:00.001-07:00

Back in January I wrote about Why I Stopped Wearing Make-up. I stopped wearing make-up, because I didn't feel beautiful without it on. I had to reclaim my beauty and realize that I'm gorgeous the way God made me. I've come a long way in a short time and I am very happy with who I am and how I was made. I'm so happy in fact, that I now want my face to have a tad more sparkle to show how I feel on the inside to others.

I found some newer types of make-up that don't cover up my face or feel gross. Very light stuff and a bit of shine for my eyes. It looks quite natural actually and just gives me a bit of glimmer. I want people to see a glimmer, because it's how I feel. I even found something that was a cross between plain old lip balm and lipstick. It's a tinted lip shine, but leaves everything nice and translucent. Pretty, but again natural looking. So, I still look the same, but a little shinnier.

I cherish the lesson that I learned and how I was able to grow. I'm very comfortable still going to the store or movies without my make-up on. I know that whether I wear it or not makes no difference to who I truely am. With that lesson learned now, I think it's okay to reintroduce it, in a brand new way. I have no worries of becoming self-concious or "ugly". I know those insecurities are behind me and it feels remarkably good.

My fresh outlook has a slightly shimmered eyelid and lip some days, while it always has a happy heart!

I am Free, because...

2011-11-10T16:24:00.001-07:00

Tomorrow is Remembrance Day and I thought it would be fitting to share a video or two which encompass the respect and emotion I have for our military personel, past and present. I have friends in the Royal Canadian Air Force, the Canadian Army, and the Royal Canadian Navy. I know friends and family who have served with grace, courage, and dignity in our military and the military of our allies. I consider myself extremely lucky and extremely blessed to have them in my life and to know that they are responsible for my freedom. Those friends and family know who they are and I have no doubt they are aware of how much I love them and thank them for protecting me!

I can attend the church of my choosing, because I am free. I attended school, because I am free. I can drive a car, because I'm free. I can choose to have more than one child, because I am free. I fly my flag and vote, because I'm free.

My freedom did not come free of charge. My freedom came from people who were willing to go out and fight for it. My freedom came, because a very brave and honourable man or woman went out and brought it home for me. I am so very grateful to those who have served and those who are serving.

I always shed a tear when pausing on Remembrance Day, because I know that freedom comes at a price. I know that every service member has a person who loves them dearly and can't wait for them to return home safely. I know that some don't make it back at all. I shed a few tears, because I am someone's mother. My son can ride his bike safely down our street, because someone elses child is put him/herself in harms way. I am so thankful to that soldier's mother, because without her my child would be living a very different life.

I am free and I am thankful for my freedom. I hope that I do my very best to not squander it.

Some Occupy Movements are Actually Effecting Change

2011-11-07T13:04:00.000-07:00

I've been quite apprehensive to address this whole Occupy movement, that is, until now. I'm trying to stay as neutral as possible with this whole thing, because I personally don't understand all of it.

I gained much respect for some of those in the movement today! I was extremely pleased to read and hear that the Occupy Nova Scotia protesters will be moving for Remembrance Day. It is respectful and I believe that particular group of protesters is worth listening to. If they are willing to show respect for our country and veterans by moving, temporarily, then I believe the same respect should be shown them, by simply hearing them out.

I don't think the same can be said for all the Occupy groups in our country. I think some of the acts of defiance are very selfish and unnecessary. I'm not one for the "down with the establishment" attitude. On the other hand, Occupy Calgary has my support, because they've mainly focused on one goal and that's the homelessness in our area. Starting as one group with many causes, they shifted to be two groups with one main cause. The only way to truely enact change is to have a clear message. People get too confused and don't understand what the point is, when there isn't a clear message or goal. I haven't been able to say whether or not I support or don't support other Occupy groups, because I don't know what they're protesting. Each group seems to have 1000 different reasons and no clear consensus on anything. I personally don't ascribe myself to the whole 99% attitude either. We all have to work, whether it's for some company or for ourselves. I choose not to view it in a way where we are working so someone else can get rich. I think that's a very strange way to interpret our purpose. We believe we are working to provide for our family and that is all that matters. I guess for the 99% work for the 1% message, I disagree. I see it very differently!

Like I said before, Occupy Calgary, however, seems different. They have one clear message, with a smattering of others. One of the two Calgary groups has also accepted a deal from the Calgary Homeless Foundation according to the CBC article ~ Occupy Calgary protesters agree to deal. They had one goal and they achieved something. The St. Patrick Island, Calgary protesters actually accomplished effective change in the lives of others!

I hope all the other Occupy groups take note of that Calgary group and stand solid for one main goal. The alternative will result in people not seeing the point and the movement fizzling. Protesting is pointless if you're only doing it for the mere excuse to protest and although I'm sure that's not what's happening, that's the way a lot of people are perceive it when there's no clear message. Occupy Calgary had a real purpose and were protesting for a real cause. Occupy Nova Scotia is showing respect for others and recognizing the service of others as well. They are another example of the good that can come out of clear, unselfish action! I hope the other groups notice what is working and adjust themselves accordingly. If they really want to help people than I'd think they'd shift to what works, because not doing so makes them no different than the "establishment" they say they are against.

I'm all for a good protest, but I also know that protests only work if your message resonates with the general public. The Occupy Calgary protest resonated, because they received a positive answer. Occupy Nova Scotia is resonating, because they chose not to alienate those around them and show respect for those who have fought for them to even have the right to protest.

It's That Time of Year!

2011-11-03T17:00:00.002-06:00

So, the Christmas season is already upon us. Halloween is wound down for another year and the decorations are being put away. Since we're in Canada, we even have Thanksgiving celebrated and all gratefully put to bed. There's a break of only a few weeks before The Toronto Santa Claus Parade and the Metcalf's Christmas Tree Day. That's the day that Christmas officially begins in our house. It's slightly more than a month before the big day and oh so much fun! After that, this year we'll be attending The Santa Claus Parade of Lights in Olds. It's the closest Christmas parade to us, since Airdrie has yet to have a Santa Claus parade in the three years we've lived here. I'm very excited to have found a parade so close and I'm even more excited that it's an evening parade, so it'll have the extra special magic of Christmas lights to go with it!!!!

This Saturday, to kick off the holiday happenings, The Airdrie Farmer's Market is having their first Christmas Show. Admission is a donation to the food bank or $2 per family. I can't wait to see all the wonderful Christmas things and hopefully find a few little Christmas present gems.

Of course, starting December 1st is the annual Airdrie Festival of Lights. It's a month long, beautiful Christmas staple for the community! There's always something fun for the kids, entertainment, train rides, and lots more. We go every year, usually more than once!

The only thing I'm still patiently waiting for is The CBC Holiday Guide. I'm always ready for it a few weeks before it's ready for me. So, I'll just keep checking and I know that soon, my favourite television Christmas movie/specials schedule will be ready.

My Christmas wish for you is that you will have a wonderful, happy time, regardless of what's going on in your life. Life happens, but how we choose to accept the goods things is what makes it beautiful. How we choose Happiness is what makes it good. Christmas and all the holidays in the season are meant for us to really See! I hope you have a moving experience this season :)

I had a wonderful day!

2011-10-27T22:34:00.001-06:00

The leaves crunched beneath my feet as I walked the dog. One of my favourite things of autumn, by far! Morgan was his usual happy, funny, teasing me, self. He's such a delight!

I even got a chance to have some real grown up time with another adult. I forgot how great coffee, well in my case herbal tea, can be when you're not constantly and as patiently as possible reminding a little one to eat over his plate, please don't kick that, and just one second sweetheart Mommy's talking and then it's your turn.

I love when a day turns out to be great. I love when Morgan's excited with the anticipation of Halloween. I love when he has a great day, because he faced and overcame a fear. I love when my sweet husband emails me well in advance to let me know he'll be later and by doing so, I have the time to adjust the schedule and prepare.

I had a very happy day!

I'm Fortunate to See...

2011-10-24T12:44:00.002-06:00

I'm so fortunate to be able to see the blessings in my life. Everyone has blessings, but I don't think that everyone has the ability to see those blessings. I believe that one of the ways I'm able to see all the good things in my life, is due to the way I pray. I try to always ask what God's will is for me and the ability to recognize His will when it's in front of me. If I'm not looking I could easily miss it and then fall into a pattern of blame. That's just not an option, so I make a solid effort to add the ability of sight to my prayers. Of course, I still have some bad days, everyone does. There are even some days where I don't see anything good in front of me, but those days are blessings as well. They allow me to appreciate the days where I do see the beauty of my life, even more!

When I pray, it's vital for me to relinquish all control to God. I can't control how God works, but I can humbly ask for something and add, "If it's your plan for me" and "give me the presence of mind to do what needs to be done and the strength to do it." Saying that when I pray also helps me learn how to continue to trust in my Creator. God knows my heart best and I think He helps others see my heart too! I believe that everything, yes everything happens for a reason. I may not know that reason at the time. I may not be happy with the situation. I may even be fumingly furious, but I still know that there is a reason. Sometimes that reason is to steer me onto a different path and other times the reason is to force me into a decision I would have never considered prior. Every now and again that reason, no matter how devestating the event, is so I'll be available to do what comes my way months or even years down the road.

It's like that song by Rascal Flatts, "Broken Road"..."Every long lost dream lead me to where you are, lover's who broke my heart, they were like northern stars, pointing me on my way into your loving arms...God blessed the broken road that lead me straight to you" What honestly written lines. Everything that happens, good or bad, is actually leading us to something wonderful. It's there if we will only see it!

I few months ago I promised to start saying Yes when it came to God. Yes, because it's good for me and my spiritual growth. Yes, because it's helpful to others and Yes, because as long as I say yes I believe the rest will be taken care of. My yes saying has given me the chance to really practice trusting and that's a beautiful gift! I'm so very fortunate to see my faith at work.

Together, Forever!

2011-10-20T18:51:00.000-06:00

I can only hope and pray that I am blessed with the long, loving, life with my husband, like this couple was.

Please click on the link to see the amazing love story, right up until the last moment. It's beautiful and a gorgeous example of what love really is.

http://www.kcci.com/video/29527364/detail.html

GMC Sierra our Lady

2011-10-08T18:41:00.001-06:00

My husband and I bought a new, previously owned, GMC Sierra this weekend. She's gorgeous and I've easily driven her a bit, everyday. She's cozy and wonderful, with heated leather seats. After talking, or more accurately facebooking, with my Uncle I discovered this beauties name, Lady. It was the heated leather seats and how strong, yet gentle she is that did it. She's just like the Kenny Rogers' song and I love her.

I know to some a vehicle is just a vehicle, but to me it's something that you spend a lot of time in. You develop a trust and you have to be in-tune with your truck so you can help her when she's under the weather. It's a relationship! Lady is going to be with us for a very, very long time :)

2,925 Days of Friendship with Dr. Bob!

2011-10-06T10:04:00.001-06:00

Every year I am humbled by being granted another day of sobriety. Today I am proud and greatful to say that I've been a friend of Dr. Bob's for 2,925 days or 8 years. For some reason it seems so much more emotional than previous years. This particular day is so much more than any other day, because it acknowledges the decision I made back then and the life I am granted now.

I know that I wouldn't have a happy home, with my son and husband, if I didn't make that decision. I know I wouldn't have my beautiful, sweet little pets, if I didn't make that decision. I know I wouldn't have peace and sanity if I didn't make that decision. The glorious news is, I made that decision and now I have everything I always hoped for. Not everyday is roses, but that's part of life. Everday is a gift and blessing though and I can see that now.

I've seen the tragic, long term effects that alcohol can play on our bodies. I've watched people I love die from those effects. I know that my child and my family will never see that happen to me. I was 22 when I quit drinking and the main thing I heard then was how young I was and how amazing it was for someone so young to get sober.

So, I say to you reading now, if you have any trouble with your drinking or your life has trouble due to your drinking, you are not too young or too old for that matter to choose sobriety. You won't miss out on anything special by not drinking. The friends who are really your friends will support your decision and those who aren't worth it will tell you that you don't have a problem. Even if you're not sure, just get up and go to a meeting in your area. There is AA in every single town/city across the continent. I'll be perfectly honest, for the first little while you're not going to like it. For the first little while you might feel really out of your element. That's normal. It's even normal for you to think things like, "I don't really have a problem, I was just going through a phase" or "I've had a break now so I can go back and have just one or two" The truth is, that's the disease of alcoholism trying to trick you into feeding it again. Ignore that voice. Eventually you will feel grateful and eventually you'll see the wonderful decision you made when you chose life over this drunken existence. I believe in you! I believe that you can choose better if you want it. If you don't have enough courage yourself today, then rely on my courage for you. Rely on your child's courage, your spouses courage, mother, father, friend, or your new sober friends' courage. Choose to lean on others for help. All you have to do is get up on your own two feet and walk into a meeting. That's it! They will help you learn the tools you need to learn to not drink. I'm sure there are other ways, but this is the way I did it and this is the way that I've seen work for generations! Go to AA Canada or AA World Services page to find the meeting in your area today. You are not too busy and I know that's what you're going to say next, because that's what I said. Just go and worry about the other junk later. Life can be better and I know because mine is! Look up AA in your phone book and call. There is a person just like you and me waiting to help you, because someone waited to help them. We give, because we were given to and it's that simple!

I am thankful and blessed to have stayed sober for another day! I am blown away that "just one more day" has accumulated itself to become 8 years. That's amazing!

Hand in Hand!

2011-10-04T13:22:00.000-06:00

I was reminded today how fortunate I am to live in a place where we can be whomever we are. As I was walking Morgan to school I saw two young men presumably on their way to their school. They were by all accounts extremely good friends, laughing, and exhibiting a very happy body language. Upon a closer look these two young gentlemen were holding hands. Unabashedly, sweetly, honestly, and respectfully holdings hands!

We're so fortunate to live in a place where it doesn't matter who we love or hold hands with, because we are all entitled to live and love openly and respectfully. We don't have to be concerned about what others think of our expressions of affection in public. I love that I can walk hand in hand with my son and when he grows up, he can walk hand in hand with whomever he chooses!

I say, well done young men! Well done on holding hands, whether you're just friends or dating, well done on breaking away from the stereotype that men can't show care and affection for one another...and Thanks!!! You guys truely made my day :)

Now for the song that sums it all up and more, plus the new project that they have, With a Little Love.org

Our Little King

2011-09-28T11:00:00.001-06:00

Yes, we have a new kitten. He's a siamese cross, 10 weeks old, and his name is King. He honestly the sweetest little thing. That's King with his brother, before we brought him home on Saturday!

There's something about a kitten that makes everyone talk in baby-talk and smile a little extra. He's adjusted now to our house by the evidence of him exploring and taking over all of Stella's favourite spots. He's also a very good litter box user. For you cat lovers, you know that litter box usage is important. We've had a very, very smelly 6 years with our Stella, but with the addition of King that's all over since he covers up her messes too! Horray!!!

Rory, our golden, loves King and sits and waits all day long for King to love her too. Stella is in a mood and is bitter with everyone, not just King. She's doing very well though, for not really liking the situation. She's hissing a bit, but she's always the one to back off and go away and she's not seeking King out to hiss or be nasty. Good Job Stella! I know it'll take her a bit to come around, but she's already doing so much better than I thought she would.

It's so nice to have a cat that will let us pet him without attacking us. He's so sweet and he had an excellent start in life, so he's well socialized. It's not Stella's fault that she doesn't like to be pet. She had such a terrible first 6 months before we adopted her, that it's taken her years to calm down. Rory helped her learn to trust a lot. She imporved dramatically after we were blessed with Rory. I'm sure that given time, she'll feel the same way with King. She'll see that we still love her and that life is still fine and wonderful. Her little anxieties will start to melt away.

King is sleeping soundly right now on the back of the couch. He's so peaceful and safe! Horray for baby animals!!!

Does it Really Matter?

2011-09-27T12:23:00.001-06:00

We've had a weekend with some sickness and the addition of a new kitten to our family. After sitting with my sweet boy and cooling the cloth on his head I realized that I have a habit of finding a cause to rant about or a bandwagon to jump on. It's another way I escape, so to speak, instead of living in the reality of my wonderful life.

Fighting the good fight over every little thing doesn't allow for a very balanced life now does it? I think maybe I need to be less concerned about what other people or organizations are doing and focus more on my home and what I'm doing. It's not my job to fix things I perceive to be a problem. It's only my job to ensure that my son, husband, and pets are happy, healthy, and well looked after. When Morgan had a fever I didn't give two heaps about O Canada and why is that? That's because, no matter how much I don't like to admit it, it doesn't really matter. It's an idealistic value that is important at certain times, but it's not so desperately important that I need to be wasting my time up on a soap box about it. All that soap box does is take me away from my real job and my real purpose. All soap boxes that I choose to jump on do that. They take the best parts of me away from the people I love. They take my best ideas, energy and focus away from what truely matters instead of letting me do the sickness laundry to keep the spread of germs down to a minimum.

So, today I'm going to try to focus on my family only, not on some "cause" that doesn't need my energy or focus, because it's an it and not a him or her. My family and the people in it are what really matter. Ensuring their health is what matters and I sometimes need a swift kick in the pants to fall off my soap box and remember that.

I'm off the box now and I'm not preaching at anyone about the travesties of this world. My world is within these four walls and I am safe and secure enough within them to not rant it up about one thing or another. I mean, when it comes right down to it, who cares and so what?

The National Anthem is Apparently Negotiable?

2011-09-23T09:41:00.001-06:00

School isn't just about learning math, science, and english. School is also for teaching our children social protocal and social behaviour. When you line up at school and walk on the right hand side of the hallway it's to teach you how to move through society. It's the side of the road you'll eventually have to drive on and when we go to the mall, which side of the mall do most people stick too? If you look at crowd of people walking in Canada, most stick to the right. That's not because it makes most sense, it's because that's the side they were taught to walk on from kidnergarten to grade 12. I mention this, because I just found out that Morgan has not been standing for the national anthem at school. WHAT?

I figured there must be a logical reason for this. Maybe it's because the kindergarten kids haven't learned it yet or something? I looked into it a little further and found there to be no specific policy at the school board which requires schools in our division to play the anthem in the morning. WHAT? Other school divisions just north of us have it in their policy that schools in their division are required to play the national anthem every morning, as they should. There are even other schools in Airdrie that play the anthem everyday. So, I proceeded to ask one of the teachers today, "why hasn't Morgan been standing for "O Canada" on Friday mornings? I understand why he may not be standing the rest of the week, because he's an afternoon kid, but he also goes Friday morning and I just assumed he'd get it them." Well, apparently not. They ONLY play the Canadian national anthem at his school once a week, on Monday morning. That's it!!!!

My hands are metaphorically in the air throwing my imaginary papers around as I shake my head in displeasure and disbelief! I may need to choose a different battle, because I'm so insensed by this that I may not be the most level headed person to explain to them why it's EXTREMELY IMPORTANT to play the anthem every, single morning!

The only way it will become second nature for the children to stop dead in their tracks when they hear O Canada, with respect for their country, is if their school makes it a non-negotiable action, like standing in line and walking on the right side of the hallway.

As far as I'm concerned, if flying our flag is a daily requirement, then the anthem should be a daily requirement as well!!!!!! If our sporting events play it before every game and our tv channels play it at the end every sign off, then the school should be playing it everyday.

Everyone else in this country knows it's important for the kids to stand for the national anthem every morning and why! Our neighbouring school board understands, so why doesn't our school board? Our board should require it and nothing less! Regardless of board policy not being specific enough, other schools in Airdrie play the national anthem every morning! If other schools see the importance, why doesn't ours?

The times will never change enough for "O Canada" to be negotiable!

As long as Morgan's school has it this way I will be playing "O Canada" at our home, everyday before he leaves for school. If we're running late, then so be it, we're still standing at attention for our country, for the 1 minute and 30 or so seconds in this house. When we arrive late I will have no problem explaining that we are late, because we stand and sing the anthem everday, no exceptions!

Sunday School Success

2011-09-20T13:11:00.001-06:00

This past Sunday was the first for this years children's program at Airdrie United and Morgan's first Sunday as a willing Sunday School participant. He loved it!!! I couldn't be happier. He feels so comfortable there and the Children's Co-ordinator is a dream come true. She's vibrant, engaging, and most importantly energetic. I'm sure that we will have a successful year as Morgan learns more about the Christian faith in a fun and interactive way. They follow the Godly Play model for the children and I'm so looking forward to all the wonderful things he's going to learn and share with me. I can't wait to see how his little light will shine in the growth of this program and church!

Why SpongeBob is Great for Kids!

2011-09-15T21:23:00.000-06:00

There was a news story this week that's been nagging at me regarding SpongeBob Square Pants and how it is bad for children's development. The story was so "big" apparently that it even made its way to New Zealand newspapers, SpongeBob SquarePants causes learning problems - study. The part that's been nagging at me is this, I strongly beg to differ.

If you had asked me six years ago if SpongeBob had any merit I would have vehemently proclaimed that was the most ridiculous thing I'd heard. I would have told you that it was nothing, but mind numbing brain candy and I couldn't possibly see what anyone saw in the show. I was a SpongeBob snob. I would have also been behind the findings of this study one hundred percent, using it as evidence that I was right all along.

Needless to say, that opinion has gone by the wayside. I have a five and a half year old now. I reluctantly allowed him to start watching the program a few years ago and I surprisingly found it quite smart. Yes, it is fast paced, but when compared to Caillou, as the study did, I would rather my son learn in fun and exciting ways than learn how to whine incessantly like the kid in that program. There is zero merit in teaching children to whine about everything. SpongeBob, on the other hand, has some very wonderful lessons to teach our children. I wonder if it occurred to this researcher that the attention and productivity levels of the child decrease right after watching the show for the reason that it's riviting and they can't stop thinking about it's genius?! I mean, really? When you get involved in an exciting program or even an all consuming book, it takes you awhile before you can stop thinking about how awesome it is, too and you're an adult. Now, does that side effect make you less productive? Maybe, but that's due to the desire to learn more about what's interesting you, not because it's detrimental to your development. Why place so much pressure on parents to make their children perfect, when there's nothing actually wrong with them in the first place?

I don't have the answers; however, I do think it's extremely dangerous to jump on the band wagon of what may or may not hurt our children, while robbing them of the carefree nature of just being children! Seriously, back off and let them love what they love. As long as it's not actually hurting them, by teaching them bad habits and poor manners, then what's the problem?

I seem to be digressing. To back up a little, let's examine the merits of SpongeBob SquarePants.

As a Character:

1.) SpongeBob has a work ethic like no other. He can't bare to be even one minute late for work. He loves his job and is loyal to his employer. He's even kind and chipper to the bah humbug Squidward, his neighbour and fellow employee. You see, SpongeBob had a dream and is now living his dream as a Krabby Patty fry cook. He truely loves what he does and who he is.

2.) He has a pet snail, who meows like a cat and he loves him anyway. He also has friends that are very different, like Sandy Squirrel from Texas. Sandy lives in an underwater biodome, because she needs to live with the oxygen of the world above the ocean. When she leaves her biodome, she wears a diving suit to breath. So, SpongeBob doesn't discriminate, because someone is different. He accepts everyone, just the way they are.

3.) SpongeBob never gives up. No matter how many times he fails to get his boat license, he keeps trying and believes that he will be a boat driver one day!

4.) He conquers his fears. No matter how scared Patrick, SpongeBob's best friend, and SpongeBob were about the new rollercoaster, they road it anyway. They helped each other overcome their fears!

5.) SpongeBob is funny and not weird, unintelligent funny. He's smart, pun wielding, hilarious!

Now these are just a taste of the many qualities that SpongeBob SquarePants brings to the table for children. There is no questionable language or teaching my child bad behaviour just so they can then teach them not to act that way (ahem...Franklin). It's actually, to my surprise, pretty good programming. These are all reasons why I love SpongeBob and don't even get me started on the post-modern subversiveness of it all. Just think about it for a second, they go to the beach and slather on sunscreen, but they already live on the sea floor. It's breaks down all the barriers of life, while still maintain a social structure that works well. That's all kinds of fantastic, not just for it's entertainment value, but also for it's literary genius!

It took me more than a decade to see it, but I understand SpongeBob now. I can only sing it's praises now and I am one very happy parent for the joy it brings my child. I will never ban it from his repertoire of television watching, because I fundamentally beg to differ the point that it's damaging to children's development. That's like the same argument that fruit is now supposedly bad for them, because of the naturally occuring sugars. It's simply a flawed way of thinking.

Let's allow our kids to be kids. If a show stimulates them to the point where they can't settle after, then give them more time to settle. It's not the end of the world for our children to be happy and excited by something captivating!

Being Laid to Rest Today

2011-09-15T09:06:00.000-06:00

Walter Francis Kenny

WALTER FRANCIS KENNY Born January 14, 1931, passed away peacefully at Caressant Care, Marmora, ON on Monday, September 12, 2011 at the age of 80. Father of Ernest, David and Al Kenny of Toronto. He leaves behind 5 grandchildren, Elizabeth, Fox, Cody, Caitlin, Justin and 1 great- grandchild Morgan. Survived by his siblings, Rita Griffith, NS, Warren Kenny, ON, Julie Harrity, Emmeline Rioux, Alexina Robichaud and Dave Kenny, all of NB. A private graveside service will held at Christ the King Cemetery in Markham on Thursday, September 15th at 2 p.m. He will be remembered as a Veteran who served in the navy in Korea, a man who could fix anything although his projects didn't always get completed (inside joke), a love of fishing, boats, frosty beverages, Bay of Quinte, Save the Rouge, old cars and finally, Kenny's Keep. Although the last few years have been a struggle for you dad, we 3 boys take comfort in knowing that you are finally at peace. God Bless.

Published in the Toronto Star on September 15, 2011

http://www.legacy.com/obituaries/thestar/obituary.aspx?n=walter-francis-kenny&pid=153640512

My Grampy

2011-09-12T21:46:00.000-06:00

This morning my Grampy Walter was finally granted the peace he so much deserved. For all of his hardships in life, he was a man with love in his heart and he tried very hard. He had been slowly slipping away for many years now and I think it was divine mercy that freed him. I believe in Heaven and in God's mercy, so I believe he is experiencing Amazing Grace!

I remember him taking me fishing at a pond when I was a little girl. I think my sister was with us that day too, but I'm not sure. I remember that he was so kind and so patient with me. I must have been very, very young as I only remember the stocked pond, us walking along beside it, and that, although a tad shy, I was very comfortable.

Years after that, when I moved back from New Brunswick, he gave me a special gift. He had bought a necklace with a heart shaped pendant. It had my initial in it and there were gold flowers on the heart as well. It was beautiful and one of the most meaningful presents I'd ever received, not because of monetary value, but because he chose it just for me and he wanted me to have something special just from him! On my wedding day I added that heart shaped pendant to my bouquet, so he could be with me since he was unable to attend due to his health. I wanted to show how special he was to me by finding some way to include him. I don't know if others noticed, but that didn't matter. It mattered that I knew!

Grampy Walter had many struggles, but I also know that he's not struggling anymore. He is at peace now and that is something I consider a blessing.

I am holding my family close to my heart today. Being across the country from them is difficult in times like these, but I knew that was part of the deal when we moved. I know that they are holding each other up and caring for each other, but my heart still breaks for them...

Smile Though You're Heart is Breaking

2011-09-04T23:46:00.000-06:00

I finally got my little man comfortable and asleep, in my bed no less, after an hour or so of him being scared and crying that he please, please, please doesn't want to go to school. "Please Mommy, please don't make me go" said his soaked, red, scrunched up face as he wrapped his arms around my neck, sobbing.

Sometimes the hardest moments are when you have to let your children go and try something new, when they don't want to and it's against your better judgement. I want him to stay here, with me, at home until he's a grown man and big enough to defend himself. I know it's not rational, I know it's not popular, but I wanted to tell him, "okay, you don't have to go", but I couldn't. It feels so unnatural, but I also know that it's time for him to grow without me a little bit. It's time for someone else to teach him. I have to be confident for him that it's all going to be okay. So, instead, I told him, "It'll be okay. You'll see that it's fun to learn." and I also told him, "You get to use a urinal there. You love that kind of toilet. We don't have one of those at home. They only have them at school and the mall" He promptly stated, "but Daddy could just put one in for us." He doesn't miss anything. "Give it a chance...you'll see, I promise it'll turn out alright!" Even after all that and all the nervousness, I shared how I was the same way as a little girl and I went anyway and I love it. The library became my favourite place, where I could read any book I wanted and I learned so many wonderful things.

I only know of one way to help him when I'm completely lost and that's to pray. So I prayed silently while he expressed his fears and then I told him that even when Mommy and Daddy aren't there, God's there. God loves him just like Mommy and Daddy and God will help him feel safe. The crying died down quite quickly after that. Then I told him about the mustard seed and I showed him one of my necklaces that has a mustard seed in it. I told him that it says in the Bible that all we need is faith as tiny as this seed and nothing will be impossible for us. He really seemed to like that! We were able to talk a little more coherently and we came up with a few ways to feel even safer while at school.

We're also having a super, fun, treasure hunt that is starting from his school and ending in our backyard tomorrow. He's drawing up the map and decorating his bike like a ship in the morning. It'll be lots of fun and help take his mind off his worries, so he can enjoy his first day on Tuesday. What a GREAT idea he came up with to get his mind off his troubles. He's doing his part...

...And now I have to do mine. I have to do everything within my power to not allow my emotions to get the better of me, infront of him, over the next week. He needs me to be confident, sure, and very excited for his new adventure. I'm his compass and if I'm nervous, he'll be nervous too. If I show him that I'm not worried at all, then he'll feel sure and confident, too. I hope and pray that I am given the strength if I run out or falter. I can cry my heart out when he's not around, but until then I am to be everything he needs me to be. This is what I need to remember this week, if nothing else. What else is a mother to do, but swallow all that down for her kid so they feel safe, eventhough my heart is breaking into a million pieces.

Little Boys & Kicking Stones

2011-09-02T11:22:00.000-06:00

I am so very blessed! I had the priviledge of walking my son to school this morning to meet his teacher before classes start next week. As we walked, talked, and held hands he came across a stone/gravel drive way and of course he kicked those little stones. I started to tell him not to kick stones, because it could hurt someone and blah, blah, blah, but then I stopped and realized what a precious moment we were having. My eyes welled up with tears as I choked back the instant lump in my throat. I always wanted, my whole life, to walk with my child to school and to have that special time where it's only me and him. How lucky, how blessed am I that I got to spend time with this miracle as he shuffled his feet and kicked a few stones?! I was given that moment to realize what matters most and it's the time I have as his mom. So, I told him, as the Johnny Reid song played in my head, that as long as he's always doing it happy and not mean that he can kick as many little rocks as he wants. That's what it's really all for isn't it, to be so happy and so carefree that it's a joy to kick a little gravel? What a beautiful moment I got to experience with a son of my very own!

I'm sure next week will be filled with more realizations about the precious time I have with Morgan. I hope those realizations drive me to soak up every possible moment while I can, as I am extremely aware that they become fewer and farther everyday. I am so very lucky!!!

A Fitting Song for Jack

2011-08-22T11:38:00.000-06:00

I know this is about country legends, but I think it's very fitting for today's news of Jack

A Sad Day in Canada

2011-08-22T10:18:00.001-06:00

This morning it was announced that our leader of the official opposition, Jack Layton, passed away after a long, well fought battle with cancer at the age of 61. I'm watching CBC News Network right now and they showed that the flag on Parliament Hill, on the Peace Tower is now officially at half mast.

Being the leader of the New Democratic Party wasn't just his job or something he did, it was who he was. What I saw in him was a man that was real no matter what he did. He was honest and good.

I remember meeting him when I was a teenager at a meeting in the Danforth area for those who opposed the Harris government cuts to education. Jack was a Toronto city councillor then and he was so nice to me. He listened to me like everything I had to say was important to him, because it was. Although it was a brief conversation, he talked with me not at or to me. I felt like my opnion mattered to him and that's how he was with everyone I think. Everyone mattered and his heart was so full for the needs of every single person.

Jack, as a regular Toronto Pride Parade participant was walking up Church Street with Olivia after the parade, just like every other resident did during Pride 2007(but it might have been Pride 2005) and I was explaining the above story to my husband and as my husband said, "Who's Jack Layton?" Jack had to move out of my husband's way and I scolded, "The man you nearly just knocked over! I can't believe you almost knocked over Jack." and then I proceeded to holler, "Sorry Jack!" You see, he was so involved with the community that he walked through large events like he was just any regular guy. I believe he was a regular guy that took all those things and combined them with his charisma to forge the amazing man that became the man that led the NDP to an historic place in Canada. Everyone loved him, because he was real. Whether you were NDP, Liberal, Conservative, Green, or Bloc, you respected and knew that Jack Layton was the real deal.

Heaven is a brighter place today with his addition and I can only pray for Olivia and his family and close friends that they are brought through this time with a sense of peace. It might be a sad day for us, but it is a mucher sadder day for them and I think it's important to respect them as they grieve.

Jack Layton's 2008 interview and bio with George Stroumboulopoulos on TheHour via YouTube:

Courageous Canada

2011-08-15T19:36:00.000-06:00

If you're as excited about Courgaeous as I am here's the new Courageous Canada website. They have info for all the cities where it'll be playing across the country starting September 30th, plus they have info for advanced ticket sales.

I encourage anyone who is looking for ways to be a better parent and spouse to go see this movie. There's always room for improvement moms and dads. There's always time to become more for your kids. I know I sure hope to and I sincerely hope you do as well. Courageous is a movie about fathers and husbands who choose to become better for their families. It's about women who learn to encourage their husbands to be wonderful! The result, if we give it a chance, can only be a happier, healthier, family.

Courageous is coming to Canada!

2011-08-12T16:55:00.000-06:00

It's come to my Very happy attention that Courageous the Movie is being released in Canada on September 30th, along with in the U.S. I am so excited!!! I've been looking forward to seeing this movie since we saw Fireproof last year and it changed our entire outlook and strengthened our marriage.

I was convinced that we'd be waiting for Courageous to be released on DVD before we'd be able to see it. Oh happy day! Apparently a division of Crossroads is partnering to bring the movie to select theatres in Canada. The news release was announced at the end of July.

I can't wait! I love uplifting movies and the fact that this movie is uplifitng for the men in our lives is even better. I truely believe that Courageous will be a movie that strengthens and chellenges men to be everything they can and truely want to be for their families!

September 30th can't come fast enough

When a Child Chooses the Church

2011-08-07T22:02:00.000-06:00

As most of you know, we've been searching for our church home since we moved to Airdrie in the fall of 2008. We've visited many and gone to more than one service at most. Actually, the majority of our search has resulted in a few months stay at one denomination or another. Our last church was baptist, which is the denomination I where I was baptized 10 year ago. I later joined the United Church of Canada, which is where my heart has stayed for all these years. After having a family it was important to me that we seek out a church that fits for all of us. We attended Airdrie United for a few months and my husband's new found curiosity for the Christian faith led us to the Roman Catholic Church for a year, but when it came time to convert my husband was leery on the notion that he had to attend classes to "become" a Christian. He strongly believed that it wasn't the church's place to decide when or if he was ready for baptism, because that is between him and God (a decision I fully support). So we went to Knox United in downtown Calgary and the fact that they were an affirming congregation was extremely wonderful, but the drive was a challenge. Then came the local baptist church around the corner and it's main perk, which was walking distance. With the baptist church Morgan wasn't too happy there as he had a bad experience in Sunday School, that totally turned him right off. After many months of talking and trying to work something out, he finally said to me that he'd really like to go back to the church we first went to. He described it only the way a child can, "the place with the stairs in the back, with a special place for the kids to play and draw and stuff, where the adults are. They have cookies there too. You know, the one that's not boring for kids" I knew right away that he was talking about Airdrie United. So I fired off an email to Rev. Dave. I wasn't going to waste a moment, because when children finally tell you where they want to learn and express their faith you run with it!!!

Today we went back to Airdrie United Church. The more than two and a half years of our searching brought us full circle and it was wonderful. Thanks to a quick response from Rev. Dave, I was able to prepare Morgan for it being a little different, seeing as they're going through some renovations right now in the church building and worship service is being held in the CE building next door. Even with the slight change in location, it was like we'd just been there last Sunday. Morgan was extrememly happy to be colouring on the floor during the service and he didn't complain even once. It was a thrill for him to see a tiny baby's baptism and he was so happy that he even helped tidy up the chairs at the end of the service.

We're all very excited for the beginning of sunday school in September. I'm so glad that this is the church he's chosen and that I can relax and know that he's happy learning about God! I think Adam's even happy, seeing as there's a few men he knows there. I'm praying and hoping that this circle has brough us to where we're making our church home, once and for all :)

The closing hymn from today, which I think is quite fitting:

First Day of Equal Marriage in NY

2011-07-23T16:32:00.001-06:00

Tomorrow is the first day of marriage equality in New York and I couldn't be happier for them. GLAAD is promoting that everyone who supports equal marriage change his/her Twitter and Facebook profile pictures until Monday. Here's the link to choose your pic of support GLAAD ~ Stand with NY, I Do.

I feel very fortunate and very proud to live in a country where marriage equality exists from coast to coast, in all provinces and territories. As a Canadian I think I even sometimes take it for granted now, but I know that many people, even our neighbours, don't have the same opportunity. Congratulations to New York and I sincerely hope and pray that this will continue.

Mayor Nenshi, the Grand Marshal of Calgary Pride 2011

2011-07-05T00:43:00.000-06:00

So my blogging break has been extremely short lived, but for a very fantastic reason. Calgary's Mayor Naheed Nenshi has been announced as the Grand Marshal for the Calgary Pride Parade in September! This momentous announcement deserves a brief break, from the break.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but he will be the first mayor of Calgary to lead the parade in it's history. So awesome! Nenshi has been the first of many for Calgary and I'm very happy to see how all respresenting he is of all his citizens.

Calgary Pride Week runs September 1-11 this year and you can gets info on all the events at Pride Calgary. The Pride Parade will be on Sunday, September 4th at noon. I dare say, the Metcalf's will be there with literal bells and beads on to hoot and hollar with pride for our family, friends, and Grand Marshal Mayor Nenshi! Awesome man, seriously great!!!

info:
Calgary Sun article ~ "Nenshi to lead gay Pride parade"
Calgary Herald article ~ "Nenshi to be first Calgary mayor serving grand marshal for Pride parade" (so I was right)

Blogging Break

2011-07-04T11:41:00.000-06:00

I've decided to take a break from blogging this summer. I'm finding it a struggle to find things to write about lately. There is a lot of topics, but I'm just not feeling the writing bug about anything. In light of this, a break is in order. I'll reassess around the end of August, beginning of September on whether or not my break will turn into a blogger's sabbatical.

Enjoy your summer!!!!

I leave you with one of my Reba favourites and personal mottos:

F.R.O.G.

2011-06-28T10:11:00.000-06:00

I just received an email from a friend about a frog, a mysterious ceramic frog given to a woman in a hospital. All be it the email is a one of those lovely stories, that's also a chain letter, it gave the meaning of frog as in F.R.O.G. Forever Rely On God!

I love it. How simple and lovely to help me remember to always lay my life in His hands :) So, the next time I see a little frog, whether he be a real one or a figurine, I'll be thinking of my Creator. I'll have a smile on my face and I'll know to Forever Rely On God!!!

Vince Gill's ~ "Tell Me One More Time About Jesus"

2011-06-26T00:25:00.000-06:00

Family Camping Success

2011-06-25T13:31:00.000-06:00

Thanks to my most wonderful husband our family camping trip was a resounding success. He is awesome!!! I didn't know it was possible to have a family trip that didn't involve me doing the majority of the work, but this trip was the beginning of the "new" family trips. This trip, my partner was just that, my partner in all things. It was glorious! He cooked and cleaned and played at the beach. He watched movies with me in the evening and put up the pop-up gazebo. We figured out the campfire together and he even took care of the portable loo. What a man :)

I can't sing his praises enough. I had an amazing time and I know he had oodles of fun too. It was really, really nice. I am so fortunate to have a loving, giving husband and I hope to never take him for granted!

The Tent Trailer Project

2011-06-09T21:44:00.000-06:00

Adam and I have invested (very, very minimally I might add) in a 1975 Starcraft Tent Trailer. It has quite a few holes in the canvas, no curtains, no foam/cushions, and a broken roof vent. It does have working appliances, including a working furnace; which we found out a couple years ago, is ubber necessary when camping in Alberta.

This weekend is going to be out first to really work on our little family project. Adam's going to tackling cleaning the canvas, then I'll patch it, while he cleans all the storage areas. We've found a lot of things second hand, like thick patio cushions and thinner couch cushions. Oh and Adam was able to buy a futon mattress off a friend for really cheap, for one of the beds.

She's definitely going to be a labour of love, but I think it'll be a lot of fun. I even pulled out a few super old sheets that I can make into curtains. The only thing we bought new was the roof vent and of course, the port-a-potty we're picking up will also be new... Because? Well it just has to be and that's all I'm going to say on that.

I'll keep you posted on the goings on of the Tent Trailer Project...maybe I'll be able to wrangle some pics too. I'm very excited! I love projects and putting a little bit of elbow grease into the trailer is just what the family needs to get this summer swinging into a whole lot of family fun!!!

Connie Cavanaugh on 100 Huntley Street

2011-06-09T11:54:00.001-06:00

The 100 Huntley Street YouTube channel has posted the Connie Cavanaugh interview from yesterday and I thought I'd share it with you in hopes that you might get even a small amount of what I was able to get out of it. Enjoy, I sure did!

Sewing? Sewing!

2011-06-08T18:49:00.000-06:00

For my birthday this year I picked up a little Singer sewing machine out of my birthday cash. I figured, with the amount of hand stitching I'm always doing for Morgan or Adam, and sometimes myself, I needed a real sewing machine of my very own. She's a very basic little model, but she does everything I need.

I took on the task of making curtains for our hall and kitchen windows with some lovely yellow and blue print fabric that my Mother-In-Law so kindly gave me for my project.

Here's some pics of how they turned out:

Above are the kitchen drapes

& below are the hall drapes

Below are the kitchen ones again

Close up of the fabric

I've Said "Yes" Today

2011-06-08T11:37:00.000-06:00

I was watching 100 Huntley Street this morning, as I do most mornings, and there was this woman on named Connie Cavanaugh. Her story touched home with me and how sometimes we wander away from our spiritual truth and God. The thing that she's been able to do to bring herself back to faith and grace is choosing to "say 'Yes' to God". Sometimes you might have to say yes many times in a day, expecially at first, because your yes muscles have gotten weak. What an insight Connie was for me this morning! I so need to get a copy of her new book "Following God One Yes at a Time". If I identified so much with her interview, I'm sure her book will be the same. As a start, until I can get my hands on a copy, I'm following Connie's blog @ http://conniecavanaugh.wordpress.com/ . It's full of lots of little nuggets of truth and practical ideas for how to start saying yes to God.

It's a very simple thing I think, to remember to choose Yes. It's following through on that yes that may be the challenge, but that's part of the beauty of it I guess. Saying yes to faith and God means, though, that I don't have to do it on my own steam either, because I have my Creator helping me through it every step of the way. I've been wandering a bit myself, so to have such a great reminder today to focus and choose the best way for me, which is God's way, is a wonderful blessing.

Luke 11:9 & 10 comes to mind "And I say unto you, Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you. For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened." By saying yes I am seeking, asking, and knocking. By saying yes I'm being given, finding, and having the door opened for me. So simple, yet I think we forget sometimes how easy it can be to give over to our Higher Power.

The ladies from Sister Act sum it up perfectly, I will follow Him!

Bravo Takei, Tsk Tsk Tennessee

2011-06-06T14:29:00.000-06:00

     My fellow blogger wrote the following, She Who Seeks ~ It's OK to be Takei! and brought a very important issue in Tennessee to my attention. Apparently there is a bill that has been proposed to introduce a law that will not allow teachers to discuss any LGBT issues/families/ etc. in the classroom. Of course, by hearing this I decided to look into it further. I found the following article in the Memphis Flyer ~ Don't Say "Gay". The article indicates that the introduction of this bill is in direct response to some school boards suggesting that they are planning on bringing in new curriculumn to include homesexuality, transgender, bisexuality, etc. into their sex education classes in middle school.

Now to breath before I rant...

      I'm sure you can guess what I'm thinking, these kids are going to be denied the truth of society and life in PUBLIC school, a place where you're supposed to be learning the facts about the world we live. School is not a place to have biased ideals taught in a science/biology lesson about health and sexuality. Ideals have no business in science and sexuality is a health science, not an idealogical issue. Manners, helping your neighbour, being a good citizen, those are idealogical or atleast simply social graces or norms that are taught and they are things that can be left up to tweeking and "normal" ethical language. LGBT topics are not actually an ethics topic, they are a fact based, health science and are not subject to whether or not they fit in with what some may or may not deem as something to discuss in polite society.

      My next thought is more of a question. Exactly how far will this bill, if it becomes law go? Will a child with same-sex parents be allowed to incorporate their life into a project, like the heterosexual families? If so, then how exactly will the teacher be legally allowed to grade that child or comment? What about simple things like the teacher saying things such as, "Billy, are your moms coming to the play tomorrow night?" or "Cindy, your dads are waiting for you in the office." in a voice loud enough for other students to here? Is that teacher now going to be subject to legal action, because LGBT was mentioned or implied or flat out discussed with a student? What if a child asks, what is that teacher supposed to enforce? Is he/she actually supposed to enforce the notion that only man/woman union is "normal"? If they do that, then how do they get around laws regarding discrimination? Basically the teacher is darned if they do and darned if they don't.

     I'm sure, as you can all tell, my solution to such a bill is to vote in down so it doesn't become a law; however, it has already passed their Senate process. (not law yet) Yes, it's all the way over in Tennessee, but this law still affects me, because it affects children who might be in a family like mine. It affects me, because it affects whether or not children are being taught the truth and teaching ignorance is not an option. Yes, all topics should still be age appropriate. No one is suggesting otherwise. I speak from experience that you can make LGBT families an age appropriate discussion even at 3 or 4 years of age.  Not discussing it at all is the problem. I strongly hope that this doesn't come to pass for the children of Tennessee and that if it does, I hope that it isn't catching and leaves just as quickly as it came.

More Info or to Take Action:
NBC news article ~ "Don't Say Gay" bill passes Tenn. Senate

It's OK to be Takei!
Geroge Takei official website
American Civil Liberties Union of Tennessee

"I'm Gonna Walk With My Grand-Daddy"

2011-05-28T20:48:00.000-06:00

"When I get where I'm goin'...I'm gonna walk with my Grand-daddy...and then I'll hug his neck" These lines from Brad Paisley sum up how I feel about one of the things I look forward to doing when I get to Heaven someday. I'm sure that Poppy is up there fishing with Jesus, laughing and telling some inappropriate jokes right now.
Today, my family said goodbye to Poppy. It would've been his seventy-third birthday. I, very unfortunately, was not able to go for many reasons, which don't matter in the grand scheme of things, but I know that my Poppy knows that I love him and always will. I had every single family member in my heart and prayers today, because not only did we lose our Poppy, but my aunts and uncles lost their dad and my Nanny lost her husband. I'm sorry for their lose, as I'm sorry for mine. It was a sad day for everyone, whether I was there or not, because it wasn't about that, it was about Poppy and what a wonderful man Heaven is gaining.

My Poppy was a hard working, family man who did everything he could to be a good provider. He taught me how to fish and he taught me how to build a fire. He taught me about boats and building things. He never treated me like I couldn't do something and always explained things so I could understand. He joked with me all the time and one day he even tried convincing me that they actually make pantyhose for mosquitos, it was hilarious! I mean picture it ~ tiny little pantyhose on tiny little mosquito legs...AHAHAHA. That was Poppy! He liked his country music and he liked his port, too. He really was a good man!

No matter how much I talk or don't, I will never be able to truely encompass who he was.

So, today I join in spirit with my family and simply say ~ Goodbye Poppy Joe. I will love you forever!

Gone Fishin'

2011-05-26T09:38:00.000-06:00

This one is for the memory of Joseph Kennedy May 28, 1938-May 26, 2011. We will love you forever Poppy!

"Snap Out of It"

2011-05-25T12:13:00.000-06:00

"Snap out of it!" is exactly what I needed to here today. Just one of those days or few days where life is a tad overwhelming and you don't even know where to turn, because even praying seems pointless. Of course, it's not it just seems that way, because I temporarily forgot to choose happy and positive and instead I chose why? no! this sucks!

Silly, silly....Yes, there are things that are sad and overwhelming happening in life, but they are all things that are beyond my control. The biggest lesson I've learned this year is that if it's beyond my control I have no reason to worry or be upset, because that would be pointless as it won't change anything. If I'm sad, well I can still be sad, but I don't need to focus on that all day long

So in an effort to reset my thinking I went to Cher and now I feel much better. Sometimes I need a good, virtual slap in the face and today I got it :)

Happy to be Home!

2011-05-18T11:18:00.000-06:00

Well I arrived home from my trip with the little guy to Ontario last night. I was so happy to be back and see my husband and my dog. Oh how I missed them!!!!

It was so nice to see our family and visit with everyone. Due to my untimely "green in the gills" motion sickness issue that occured from our flight, I was left out of commission, but Morgan had a blast galavanting all over the province to the ROM, Sick Kids (for the tiny little fracture that he acquired from rough housing), 2 family farms, the Bancroft fire department, and the piece de resistance, visiting his old dog Lucy! Oh what a time we had. Unfortunately, we did have to cancel quite a few things, but anywhere that other family members could take him he still got to do and I got to rest a recover for the flight home.

I was so blessed that my mother-in-law aka Gramma came out to fly back with us to I could gravol up and doze while Morgan was well taken care of. She really is an answer to my prayers!!! It was a much better experience flying back to Alberta and now I know that for every trip from here on out I will be bringing a fellow adult with me to watch my little man, while I sleep the whole way...lol.

Favourite Election Moment

2011-05-03T10:27:00.000-06:00

My favourite election moment last night was during Stephen Harper's victory speech. He looked over at his very proud and happy wife, Laureen Harper and thanked her and their children for allowing him to give time to the other families of Canada. When the cameras panned to Laureen, her eyes were filled with tears and as she wiped them away I saw her beautiful blue painted nails. That's right, she supports her husband so much and is so proud of him and so 100% with him that even her nails show it. Mrs. Harper is one awesome lady!!! I think that we can all take a cue from her in how to support the ones we love and that's by giving our all for them.

Harper's campaign song for 2011:

Conservative Majority!!!

2011-05-02T21:19:00.000-06:00

The 2011 Election has turned out the way I was so hoping. A Conservative majority government, with the NDP as official opposition has been declared!

To say I happy or relieved would be an understatement. I'm over the moon!!!!!!!!!!

I'm thrilled about stability with my party of choice, the CPC and I'm excited by the political shift that is the NDP throwing out the Bloc. The Liberal party has now been humbled quite dramatically as well. Wow! What a night!

Looks like I'll be waking up, starting my 30's with a sense of victory, history, and stability!!!

Beth's Birthday Week Extravaganza is Fast Approaching!

2011-04-27T16:53:00.000-06:00

So next week I turn 30 and for my birthday my sweet husband is sending Morgan and I on a trip back to Ontario to see our family and friends. Saying we're excited would be an understatement! We're SUPER EXCITED! It'll be a wonderful trip filled with all the great things Toronto has to offer, like the ROM, the Toronto Zoo, MCC Toronto, Casa Loma, and who knows what else. That's just the stuff too. We get to also see my both sets of my parents, one in TO and the other at the family farm in Bancroft. We've got a slew of cousins, aunts and great grandparents to see too! What fun!!! Woo Hoo.

Another part of the birthday extravaganza week will include the 2011 Election on May 2nd. I can't think of better birthday present then an election!!! Hooray for me :)

Of course, we're having a little Alberta family birthday dinner on the weekend too. Which is just what I like. No huge fuss, just a nice, quiet, family dinner....aaaaaahhhhhh!

So, shortly...Let the festivities begin!

What is Easter for You?

2011-04-20T12:32:00.000-06:00

With preparing for Easter this year I find myself very excited about all the different ways to celebrate. I love that there are cute little bunnies and chicks all over the place. I wonder, how do you celebrate?

We co-mingle all that Easter has to offer. Last weekend we took Morgan to see HOP. Such a fun movie that embodies the mystery and excitement of Easter morning for kids and how they just can't wait to see what the Eater Bunny has left behind. It was a perfect way to kick off Easter this year!

Then today we took out our fibreoptic Easter tree and read our Bible stories for the Easter week. We covered it all from the Last Supper to the Ascension. Morgan took a special interest in it this year, which was surprising. We had our felt boards out and our little people to represent Jesus and the disciples. After all was said and done Morgan also decided that this year we should go to St. Mary's Cathedral in Calgary on Good Friday and participate in The Way of the Cross. It's at 9:30am and from the video coverage I've seen of the event, there's an inspiring turn out!

Our Good Friday will be followed by a fun family Saturday of egg decorating. I don't believe I've ever done traditional egg decorating, so my mother-in-law is going to graciously show me how it's done and we're adding it to our Easter traditions. Then Sunday will be the Annual Family Easter Egg Hunt in Nose Creek Park at 10am. This event is put on by Living Springs Christian Fellowship here in Airdrie. It's a free morning filled with 50,000 eggs, face painting, and oodles of fun for the kids. It'll be a great way to top off the Easter weekend with our family!!!!

2011-04-16T12:10:00.000-06:00

Harper Reinforces Conservative Tough on Crime Approach

The above press release from the Conservative Party of Canada has me breathing a sigh of relief. I've always thought that the criminal justice system in Canada needs to have a few tougher laws. I didn't think that the law went far enough to have the crime match the punishment/rehabilitation. After the new laws were passed in the House of Commons and then by the Senate I began to believe that victims may finally have a chance to feel that something was done for them. I do believe that rehabilitation is possible in some instances for some people, but I also believe that a person needs to learn his/her lesson before he/she is willing to be rehabilitated. If you do the crime.....you catch my drift.

My opinion has actually softened since I was a teenager believe it or not. I used to also believe in the death penalty, which I do not anymore. I don't believe it's mine, nor my government, nor the laws place to kill people, just like it wasn't that murderers place to kill. However, I do have a big problem with someone guilty of murder having the right to an early parole in Canada. I have a problem with people who are "likely to reoffend" violent crimes walking around all scott free. I, along with many other Canadians, have a problem with the fact that a registered sex offender can be granted a pardon and legally change his/her name. These are just a few examples of the things I see as negative in the criminal justice system. So, the CPC making good on their promises to help end some of these problems is music to my ears and hearing them promise to do more is even better! I strongly believe that it's a good thing for Canada and a good thing for my family.

English Leadership Debate 2011

2011-04-12T20:06:00.000-06:00

Wow! After watching this election's english language debate I was happy to see how calm and cool Stephen Harper stayed for the entire two hours. He was steady the whole way, regardless of the question, attack, or insult, Harper brought it! I look for a steady hand in my leader, it shows reliability and assuredness.

Now to look forward to the rest of the campaign in my riding of Wild Rose. I'm already decided on voting for Blake Richards, the Conservative Party of Canada candidate for Wild Rose. I've got my lawn sign and everything.

He's been serving as an MP for the last 2 1/2 years and I firmly believe that he's done a great job. It is my hope he'll continue doing that job in a Conservative Majority government!

The other candidates include Mike MacDonald with the Green Party of Canada, Jeff Horvath with the NDP, John Reilly with the Liberal Party of Canada, and Randy Vanden Broek (according to Elections Canada) with the Christian Heritage Party of Canada. Regardless of my politcal stripe I hope that all the candidates have a good election experience.

I've found it such a big change to live in a smaller community where I'm acquainted with and/or know some of the candidates from daily life. It's forced me to really delve into my political beliefs and not simply vote based on whether or not I like someone. Airdrie has made my politics more honest and less muddled by personality.

Overall, regardless of your political stripe I hope you vote. I'm a huge advocate for voting. It's our duty, our responsibility, and it's our right. May 2nd here we come!!!

Woo Hoo! My husband just walked in with the mail and my Elections Canada voter registration has arrived...I Love Election time!

"Our Country" ~ The newest and best ad to date!

2011-04-05T12:55:00.000-06:00

I'm SO very impressed by this ad! Well Done.

This ad expresses why I'm voting CPC. it embodies how I feel as a Canadian ~ Proud, Honourable, Hopeful and the list goes on!

YEAH!!! Here's to you Stephen Harper, here's to you

Our "Love Dare" ~ Winding Down

2011-04-02T14:02:00.000-06:00

I'm winding down Our Love Dare now. What a magnificent journey it has been and the things I've learned about myself and how to love better :) I'm amazed by how well this book laid out the principals of love. My favourite lesson was learning that love has nothing at all to do with whether or not the other person is deserving, it's about me loving unconditionally and without fear. I learned to do things to show my love sellflessly, like baking cookies, because Adam likes them and no other reason, or even sharing a fun video because he's think its funny, even if I don't. Little things that have helped rekindle our love and solidify our relationship. For our anniversary I set the table with my best/only lace table cloth, our nicest china, and I made his favourite meal of stuffed peppers. I even dressed up for him. I did those things to show him how I love him and by doing something for him, just because I could. This is what Love Dare gave me, the courage to just do things For love!

Of course, there were things about the book that I didn't take and make part of my life and marriage. For example, my husband is not the "head" of this home, we both are. We are equal in the decision making of everything and tht's how it's going to always be. Yes, I look for his leadership in somethings, but he looks for mine in others. It's a two way street here. I also skipped the chapter or two about God's "design" for marriage according to Genesis. I don't believe nor support that interpretation of the Bible as part of my Christian walk. I decided before we started the dare that I would take the good and positive things and leave the few details that I disagree with and that's what I did. I don't think it's fair to discard an entirely positive experience based on one or two things I don't believe.

Overall, The Love Dare brought many things to light for me. I'm better for readng it and practising what it suggested. I fully intend to pick it up again, as a refresher. I've got my notes and my things to work on still too. I still need to work on Day 1 ~ Practising Patience and Day 3 ~ No Selfishness. I know that I need to work on these things and I intend to keep working on it. It's like the twelve steps of A.A., I'm never done, because I need to always be working on my steps and praying to stay healthy. Love is no different. I'm going to keep working on my Love Steps and praying to keep my love strong and healthy!!!

A Sad, Sad Thing

2011-04-02T12:19:00.000-06:00

After watching the news last night I was extremely disappointed and disgusted to find out that Mr. Jones, who is not anykind of a pastor in my books, actually burned the Holy Qur'an. My heart sank! It's a terrible, terrible thing he has done and he does not represent God nor Christ in his actions. I'm finding it very challenging to forgive such evil behaviour, so I go back to the sentiments of my previous post about this individual and his followers and say Forgive them Father, forgive them for they obviously have no clue of what they've actually done. I, in my human form can't comprehend why this man would do such a thing. There must be so much hate and fear in his heart. I don't understand that! I don't and never will understand why people can't just allow others the respect of their faith and beliefs. Every religion deserves our undertanding and every single Holy text is to be honoured, valued, period! Make no mistakes about it, the Holy Qur'an is just as holy as the Holy Bible, the Torah, and others. There is no less worth based on faith, just like there is no less worth based on health, age, gender, orientation, or anything else you can think of.

Let me make this perfectly clear, I am a Christian who believes that my faith isn't the only way. I am a Christian who believes in the teachings of other faiths. I am a Christian who believes that everyone should believe in something and if that something or someone is Christ, Buddha, God, Jehovah, Allah, Muhammed, Confucious, etc. etc., it is good and pure and wonderful either way! I believe that everyone needs a faith, whether it be Christianity, Islam, Buddhism, Wicca, Judaism, or any of the others that make up our beautiful world! There are so many teachings from so many faiths and I think it's important to incorporate those teachings into your life. Spirituality is important! What isn't important is which one you subscribe to, because they are all essentially the same teachings of love, kindness, humility, giving, and respect for one another and the earth.

It may sound naive, it may sound idealistic, but I believe we can live without fighting over religion. I believe there is a common ground. I see it in my own town, where Christians and Muslims can find commonality and respect for one another at the Airdrie United Church. I look to that example of sharing space for Friday prayers and then Sunday services as what's possible if we just see the goodness in each other.

It's CPC for Me

2011-03-27T11:41:00.000-06:00

The day has come and I've decided that the Conservative Party of Canada will be getting my vote on May 2.

I must admit that I never thought the day would come that I, Me, would vote Conservative. I had many a prejudice against the party as a whole and quite frankly many a wrong conception of what they believe. I was lead to believe that you couldn't be a conservative and believe in same-sex marriage. Well, guess what? You can! I was also lead to believe that conservatives were only interested in themselves and didn't care about anyone less fortunate or in need. Well, guess what? That's not true. In fact, many conservative voters I've come across are some of the highest volunteering individuals I've met. I also see, first hand, how the PC government in Alberta helps people who need it. It's quite amazing the help that people actually get! I've seen and learned things that I didn't know since moving out here. The main thing is that my prejudice against the Conservative government was just that, prejudice.

Once I took the goggles of discrimination off, researched and read the CPC party's platform, policies, philosophy,and documents (along with every other parties documents, etc.) I learned that my politics are actually more conservative than any other option. I'm very fiscally and economically conservative and I'm socially liberal/center.

So, here's the run down of my politics:

~I'm pro same-sex marriage
~I'm pro life
~I'm environmentally aware and I make green choices for my family and home
~I believe in equality across the board, no exception
~I'm against the long gun registry
~I think that war is sometimes necessary, although never wanted
~I believe in tougher sentencing for guilty offenders, whether they are adults or youth and I always have
~I believe in living and budgeting within your means and that goes for the government too
~I don't support a national childcare plan and support the Universal Child Benefit
~I'm pro Monarchy
~I think we need new planes for our military and I'm okay with however much that may cost
~I support lower taxes and I've experienced first hand the difference they can make to a family
~I'm against using physical means to discipline children
~I believe in religious freedom

There are many other things that make up my politics, but these are the main issues for me. I was raised with the idea that I should always vote for the party that I agree with the most. Are there things that I disagree with the CPC on? Of course there are, but I disagree with them the least by a significant amount, which in turn means I agree with them the most! So, after very careful analysis I will be voting Conservative this year!

It is my hope that Canada will have a majority Conservative government for four years. I think we've earned the stability!

Interesting Leader Profiles

2011-03-26T19:42:00.000-06:00

Party Leader Profiles ~ CTV Federal Election page

I found it very, very interesting that Stephen Harper is the only leader with an Masters in Economics.

Maybe that's a good indication why Canada faired so well during the recession compared to everyone else. Of course, along with are already in place banking system that is ;)

We're Do You Fit?

2011-03-26T14:00:00.000-06:00

Vote Compass ~ CBC

vote Compass is a series of political questions geared towards the 2011 Election, it's leaders, issues, etc. I tried it and it keeps pointing me in the direction of Conservative! Maybe I should just stop trying to deny my politics, because of my prejudice.

Canada is Having Another Election!

2011-03-25T13:50:00.001-06:00

After watching cpac more religiously than normal over the last few days, I've been seeing the antics of all sides and there posturing for the election. I am disappointed that the 40th session of parliament wasn't able to stick it out for another year and a half, but I'm not surprised anymore. My disappointment passed, however, and now I'm gearing up for election time. It's my favourite time next to Christmas! Hearing every party's ideas and how they plan to govern better, or not in some cases. It's like candy covered ice cream...mmmmmmm.

Since I don't live in Québéc, I don't have the option to vote or not vote for the Bloc Québécois and thus I won't be focusing my political blogging to their party. If you're a reader that does live in Québéc, then I encourage you to vote for which ever party you see fit for you, regardless of whether they are Bloc, Liberal, Conservative, Green, or the many other smaller parties or independents.

I do have the option to vote for the Conservative Party of Canada, the Liberal Party of Canada, the New Democratic Party of Canada, and the Green Party of Canada, along with the many small parties of whom I've read and disagree with many of their policies in general and feel no need to discuss. If you want to know about every single party running you can go the Elections Canada: Registered Political Parties webpage and make your own decisions from there.

My last post mentioned that I was about 80% sure that I'd vote Conservative this time. I've decided to wipe the slate clean and assess each party for their merits now, not for yesteday, but now! It's a level playing field for my vote and I'm looking forward to discovering who gets it!!!!

A Very Possible May Election

2011-03-22T16:30:00.000-06:00

After watching the Budget today I shouldn't be surprised to see that all opposition parties do not support the Budget. I considered myself informed and after hearing everyone's position, I must confess I don't see what's so wrong with the Budget. I should also mention that I grapple between NDP and Conservative on a daily basis. I know, I know, it seems like an oxy-moron, but I agree with many Conservative policies and as a hardcore NDPer of the past I have found that pill extremely hard to swallow. I think my political views haven't shifted at all though, it's more that I've done more research and decided to support the party that best suits my ideals.

I was raised with a certain amount of disdain for conservativism, but I learned that most right leaning or far right voters are no different than I am. Most of them want the same things I want. Now, does this mean that I don't see the place for traditional NDP or left wing ideals? Absolutely not! I think it's extremely important to help those in need and assist people less fortunate than my family. I also know now that the Conservative Party does those things, atleast I see those things that benefit my family and where I am in life when I do my taxes and utilize all the credits brought in by the current government. I believe in equality and women's rights, but I strongly feel that women are equal now and no longer need "special" mandates. Apparently that makes me conservative.

I don't know how things shifted with my political leanings. I don't believe it has anything to do with the fact that I moved to a more conservative place, because I've abstained from voting federally since before Paul Martin took over the Liberal Party. I abstained due mainly to the fact that I had no one to vote for. This election, whether it's this May or next year I'll be voting. I'm about 80% sure I'll actually vote Conservative for the first time in my voting history. I'm leaning Conservative, because I agree with most of what they've done over the last 5 years and that earned track record is enough for me and my vote.

Seven Years and no Itch

2011-03-20T15:17:00.000-06:00

This week will be the 7th anniversary of mine and Adam's very first date! Every year is special, but for some reason this year seems more so. I'm not sure if it's because we've been working on changing our relationship for the better or if it has more to do with the year itself. Seven years to me represents a certain amount of longevity that I wasn't expecting. Seven years for some reason, means "you've made it"! I'm stoked!!! Hip hip horray for our anniversary!

We'd known ech other for a few years by the time we started dating and the few months leading up to that date I patiently waited for him to ask me. I didn't want to scare him off, so I waited for him to be ready. Then, from our very first kiss I knew I was in-love and I knew he was the man I would marry. I wasn't nervous, I didn't force it. I just allowed our relationship to grow however it needed to and that was the first time I'd ever just let something take it's course. There was a knowingness for me, with Adam, that it would all work out. Our date lasted 3 hours, just for dinner. We couldn't stop talking and then we saw 50 First Dates! We still watch it every year :)

I'm sure to some our story might sound sappy, boring, or even easy going. For us, it's none of those things. Every day is exciting! Every day has challenges and some challenges have been more than other relationships could possibly survive, but we did. We are never perfect, but we're trying to understand each other and give a little more. Most imortantly, we Love each other and that Love carries us to the place where we don't ever leave the other one behind.

~We're Team Metcalf and no matter what comes our way we will always be Team Metcalf~

A Video by Third Day

2011-03-10T21:09:00.000-07:00

I just had to share this music video and song, Lift Up Your Face., by Third Day. I'm really starting to come around to newer faith based music. I guess I'm a bit of a traditionalist when it comes to my gospel, but man, this song Rocks and I love it! It's like my two favourite things have merged and become one. Rock over here and Praise over there....nice :) I do admit it might be a tad hardcore from some, I however am not one of the some in this case!

Love Prays!!!! ~ day 16

2011-03-02T11:30:00.000-07:00

Today is by far my favourite dare day. I love to pray and when I opened up The Love Dare this morning and saw "Love Intercedes" and then the Dare was to pray for my husband I jumped for joy. Praying is one of the most loving things that I have always thought of to do when I don't know what to do for my husband. I don't talk about it much, but I suppose it's something that I should talk about. I think a lot of people don't pray for their spouses and that's a shame. Praying...oh how can I describe it? Praying is the most personal, intimate expressions of my heart to God. It's the place and time where I can become honest with myself before my Creator. It's when I can share, without criticism or judgement everything I think and feel, humbly and down to the root and bare bones of it. I love to pray!

I love to pray and I love my husband, so doing one of the things I most like to do for the man I love is amazing. I'm loving that praying for him is part of the book. I think it's so important to pray for your husband, wife, partner, whomever, because it shows a level of care and respect for their needs. I'm not a perfect wife by any means, but I do try to counteract some of my failures by praying. I think it's also important to remember that I pray for his needs, not my wants for him. Of course, the details of my prayers are between God and myself always, but that doesn't mean that I can't encourage others to pray.

Prayer has carried me through the good and the bad days. It's sometimes been prayers of thankfulness and joy and at other times prayers of loss and sorrow. Regardless of the emotions of my prayers, I've always been blessed by them. A few years ago I decided that I should pray for my husband the same way I pray for myself, because I simply love him and want him to feel as blessed as I do. I think he has a better day for it and I know that I feel better knowing that I leave him in God's hands, to be protected and guided everyday. Today's Dare from the book is a wonderful reminder to continue to pray for him, not to change him, but simply to pray because I love him.

Do you pray? I'm sure you have and maybe don't even know it. Whether you pray mindfully or not I urge you to try it on purpose if you don't normally pray. It's life changing! Remember, don't be discouraged if your prayer isn't answered the way you want it to be, God works His way not ours. If you don't want to pray for your husband or wife just yet, then perhaps start with the kids. If you don't know how to pray, think of it as writing a letter; "Dear God..." The most important part of prayer is having faith in the process and letting go. Lighten up! Prayer isn't about perfection, it's about being honest and true. That's how I look at it anyway! I hope you enjoy your prayers, I know I sure do ;)

It's Unconditional ~ Day 10

2011-02-16T16:02:00.000-07:00

I know I've skipped a few days here and there for posting, but the whole point of part of this is to not worry about perfection. It's about the love, right?! So, day ten is all about love being unconditional. It doesn't matter if my husband changes or acts differently than he did when we dated, because if I Truely love him, then I love him, period! There isn't a condition put on our love at any point, if we are to have a healthy, real marriage.

I'm still amazed by how The Love Dare is helping me see the things I've already heard or known about in such a different way. I've always thought of unconditional love as a great idea, but far fetched. Now I'm seeing and feeling that it's a real thing, tangeable!  I suspect it because The Love Dare puts the principles of love into perspective through the Bible. The most used vows, poems, and recitations at weddings are from the Bible. The Bible holds many universal truths of love, but the most important truth is that Love is Unconditional.

What does that actually mean? Well, some dictionaries have definied unconditional as something that is absolute or complete and without terms. So unconditional love is absolute love or complete love!  I like that. I don't think it's a fantasy world way of looking at love, I think it's the true way of seeing love. I don't need to get caught up in the "things" that are or aren't done, because that's just life. Where as, love is constant. Even through the arguing times the love is still there and it's love that gets us to work out the life issues.

The Love is Unconditional Dare has me doing something for Adam that is out of the ordinary, so he will know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I choose our love :) Now, I'm stilling figuring out what the best thing would be, but I've got some great ideas and I can't wait to get started.  I do know that it needs to be a something other than french toast, but I'll still make him some this weekend as a surprise. I think this dare might take me a couple of days though, but that's okay since it's about the journey

Love Doesn't Envy and Love Says a Meaningful Hello

2011-02-13T20:26:00.000-07:00

In the last 2 days I've learned that love isn't jealous of the other's accomplishments, which is one that I already subscribe to most days. I'm proud of Adam's accomplishments, the part where I've sometimes failed is that I don't always cheer him on in those accomplishments. So, now that it's brought to my attention that love isn't envious and it also roots for the other person, I'm on board! I'll be my man's cheerleader and I'll do it happily, because I love being allowed to be excited for him! I love being given the "okay" to be so in-love as to support him in all things!

The other thing I've learned is that it's important to greet Adam well. For example, when he comes home from work, even if I've had a hard day I can still give him a big ol' kiss to show him how much he means to me and how wonderful he is! The Love Dare describes this as making a good impression. Of course, I don't hide how my bad day went, but I can put that aside for half a second to say a proper "Hey Babe"! I love that this is the dare that I'm working on the day before Valentine's Day. I love to kiss my husband!!!!

Believing the Best! (The Seventh Dare)

2011-02-11T21:57:00.000-07:00

I think I'm really starting to get it man!!! The 7th dare is all about believing the best in your spouse. Yes, you acknowledge the not so great things, but you believe in the better qualities to see you and your spouse through.

The getting it part is....I need to Love my husband the way I Believe my faith. If I take that love, then I'm loving unconditionally! Thank heavens! I believe the best in Christianity and if I take that belief and focus it with the same love onto my marriage, then I will always be believing in the best parts of us! Wow! That really is Love, isn't it?!

Thoughtfulness & Manners ~ Days 4 & 5

2011-02-09T23:24:00.000-07:00

So yesterday was focused on cheking in with Adam just to say hi and see if he needed anything or if there was anything I could do for him. To be thoughtful, because love is all about thinking of the person and remembering him and his needs. The main description in the book was remembering when we first got together and couldn't stop thinking about each other. There's no reason not to have that still! So I get to think about my husband :) It's quite romantic really, to be given the permission to have my thoughts on my spouse like we're still dating! I'm loving this :)

Today was a little more challenging, because it was about love not being rude. The not being rude part, wasn't the challenging thing, it was the dare itself. The dare was for me to ask my husband what I do that he doesn't like or finds rude. Well, let me tell you that took a lot of praying and a lot of relaxing and hoping that he'd be gentle. I was waiting for him to tell me how aweful I am and then I got the most loving, sensitive, honest responses from him. He was fair and told me one or two things, easy things that aren't part of who I am, but just things that I happen to do. Things that are very fixable and they just happen to also be things I'm already working on. My husband is so loving! He had a clear opporunity to just let it all go, but he chose to be kind instead :) He's always been a patient man with me and I hope that I can learn to be as patient in return. Above everything, I know he'll wait for me as I work on it, because he loves me!

The most touching moment of our process so far was when Morgan piped up yesterday and said, "it's nice to see you two getting along so much better now! Good job Mommy" It was sweet and heartbreaking all at once, but has strengthened my resolve. I'm seeing that the tools in this book are working, because we're ready and willing to implement them. Our family is becoming better, because we're making it stronger and we've taken the opporunity given to us and we're running with it!

No Selfishness (Day 3)

2011-02-08T19:58:00.000-07:00

I'm reading that love is not selfish. Well, I thought that day three's challenge/dare of buying something for Adam, just to let him know I was thinking of him would be an easy one. The idea was for me to do it for him and it would help me practise selflessness. Who knew that would be hard? The buying something was easy, but my selfish need for perfectionism and making sure that it's everything and more messed me up.

I'm definitely going to have to keep working on this one, since it's a lot more challenging than I had planned. I'm taking a deep breath in and chilling out. It's not about being perfect, it's about doing something selfless!!! Okay, well there's definitely going to be a lot more prayer and effort put into this, while I go on and do the next dare. It's good for me to have to work at something though, it makes me less sure of myself and that's when character building happens :)

Selflessness...I'm trying to make it not about me...this one definitely requires a tad more humility and prayer!

Being Kind in Action ~ Day 2

2011-02-07T11:22:00.000-07:00

Day two was met with a little more ease for me than day one. Patience is challenging, but I believe I'm doing a good job so far. I've already found new ways to say what needs to be said, but in a more loving, positive way. I've also found in patience, that I'm asking instead of stating that I want something done. Then I'm actually saying "okay babe" and meaning it, when he says "in a minute". Day one's principle is being carried through...woo hoo

Day two is all about kindness, but not just speaking it, acting it as well. The dare was to do one unexpected thing for Adam. Not just to do something nice, but do something nice For him. So I did the thing I've never done and I made french toast for breakfast. I know he noticed, because I only make him breakfast on father's day and even then it's eggs or toast, but never something as delicious as french toast with vanilla and cinnamon sugar and then icing sugar sprinkled on top! I'm not writing about it for a pat on the back. I'm writing about it, because I want to share how easy it can be to show love to you spouse. By being kind and unexpectedly so it created an added positive spark to our day! It was monumental for me, because I gave my husband something, willingly, and happily, without my need for him to do something nice first. That's part of what The Love Dare is teaching me; true expressions of love are given, whether deserved or not. It is not an act based on condition!

I finally see what and why my mother-in-law does little things like bake something that she doesn't like, but knows that it's the other persons favourite. She's giving love unconditionally by making something for someone, because she loves them! It doesn't matter if she wants to eat the pie or whatever it is, because it's not for her it's for that person. I get it now! I get it!!!!

"...In the end only kindness matters, in the end only kindness matters! I will get down on my knees and I will pray, I will get down on my knees and I will pray..." ~Jewel

Practising Patience

2011-02-06T14:04:00.000-07:00

My first dare is to not say anything negative to my spouse and if it's too hard not to, then to say nothing. I had no idea in starting Day One that I'd have such an eye opening day, where I realized how negative I can be. I was biting my tongue a lot yesterday and searching my heart for the positive way to speak. We still have things to say and my voice is still my voice, but I can do it nicely and I don't have jump down throats to be heard nor do I have to be hastily negative. I can wait for the right words to come and I can give a lot more room for mistakes. Afterall, like I keep saying no one is perfect and I guess patience is the best way to show people that I don't expect/require them to be perfect.

Patience is one of the things that I regularly struggle with, but I truely had no clue how much it impacted my home. I thought I was doing so well all the time, simply by trying to be positive. I never really took positivity down to such a pure principle as patience. To speak positively or not at all. It automatically gives a sense of repsect and validity to the other person. Patience! I'm working on it, happily and willingly :) It's not a quality that comes naturally to me, as I'm a "now" kind of person most days. I fully believe that it can come naturally though, with patience for myself and not striving for perfection. I'm learning patience is such a wonderful thing that can transform any situation :)

The Beginning of Our "Love Dare"

2011-02-04T21:10:00.001-07:00

Today, my husband and I are embarking on the beginning of The Love Dare Book. We are doing it together, yet seperately. I'm very excited, because I know that anything that deepens love and strengthens it is always good. We've already agreed that we will allow the other the time and pace needed, if the other chooses to take a "day off" as it's important to not take one anothers inventory during this very loving process. It would defeat the purpose to turn it into such negativity. After all, it's not about the other person doing it, it's about me personally doing it to aide my heart in loving better!

From the day we decided to take the dare, it's been a number of months. I think that time must've been necessary to prepare our hearts and souls for the journey. I'm beginning today. I may share some things about my experience with it, but of course only my experience. It wouldn't be fair to Adam if I wrote and talked about his experience, because A.) I'm not him and B.) this is a very personal journey that he may not want shared. My only reason for sharing my experience would be to show other couples how wonderful it can be to reconnect on a heart and soul level. I'll be real and honest, as I always try to be. I still haven't decided if I'll share or how much, but that part is irrelevant to the fact that I'm doing it and I'm doing it with my whole heart.

The whole idea in taking The Love Dare is not to get my husband to love me more, it's about me learning to trust in the love I have for him. To strengthen that love within me so I can be and give all the love I can without condition! I will have practical ways to take the love that God has given me and the principles of that love, and live them everyday. Will there be perfection, no, but that's the beauty of it, because when we trust and embrace true, unconditional love, perfection isn't necessary! Only the love and the desire to try, in that love, matters :) I'm praying for our hearts to stay open so the love and principles of love will make us ~ and yes, I'm going to say it ~ Fireproof!!! If you pray and you feel it in your heart to do so, I humbly ask that you keep us in your prayers and I sincerely thank you if you do :)

The Love Dare from Mike Stecker on Vimeo.

A Day for Remembering and a Day to Assess

2011-01-31T19:44:00.000-07:00

Today is the three year anniversary of when the good Lord took my friend Lindsay to Heaven. Today I've been reflecting on whether or not I'm living well. You see, my friend was such an inspiration to everyone she met and I'm left hoping and stiving to be the force that she was. Lindsay made me believe that angels really do exist. I don't say that as a cliche or as a sentiment, she truely was the most amazing person and for someone to be that loving, she'd have to be Heaven sent.

After reading a fellow blogger's post today @ Queen of Fun 101 ~ A Victim Treats His Mugger Right I was reminded of the things that Lindsay taught me, through example, about being a light for others. The man in the story shared by Queen of Fun 101 is an example of what humanity really is! I can only hope that I am half the positive force that he was! Of course, for anyone that knew Lindsay they know she probably wouldn't give a mugger her jacket. She'd most likely kick that kids butt; however, she might buy the kid supper afterwards and have a lengthly chat about being a better person. She had a way and I was extremely blessed to love her and be loved by her in return. I know I must be doing well and really living, because every now and again I catch a glimpse of Lindsay in the things I say or the songs I sing or the way I dance with Morgan around the house!

Today I'm hoping to see the angel in everyone, but especially I hope to do something for them

Today IS a Beautiful Day

2011-01-27T10:54:00.000-07:00

Agree with the Pope?

2011-01-24T14:56:00.001-07:00

CBC article entitled "Pope to Catholics online: It's not just about hits"

After stumbling upon the above article today I was quite happy to read that the Pope has taken a moment to remind Christians that discussing faith in an online setting is not about "popularity" or the number of people who read it or convert. He goes further to urge people of faith to have a "Christian-like presence" or spirit, accordng to the article, when they are on Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, blogging, or any other social media. I must say, it's about time someone said something! On this matter, I agree with the Pope whole-heartedly.

I don't think that people should bully, provoke, or demonize other faiths or other parts of their faith for not being "Christian enough" for the sake of bolstering themselves up in the eyes of people or God. What does that even mean, "not Christian enough"? I believe that true faith is found in love, not fear. The only way to get there or to help others in their journey is to do so in an honest, imperfect, humble way. There is no positive reaction for the soul when one is on a soapbox being self-righteous and pointing fingers. In Christiantity, a believer is encouraged to show others his or her faith through action. For example, shouting at the top of your lungs that something is an abomination isn't necessarily the way to go. It would be better spiritually, to approach the situation with a loving heart and a willingness to help encourage positive change. Many other faiths follow the same general principle of compassion and an ability to bite ones tongue against negative speech.

I'm sure there is many a Christian out there who disagrees with some of my views; however, I believe that doesn't make either one of us less Christian than the other. I don't fault anyone who believes in abortion just because I don't. I don't view abortion as a women's rights issue or a religious issue. I view it as a personal choice and my choice happens to be pro-life. I have friends who disagree with me entirely, but we're still friends. I have friends who've had abortions and I have friends who expressly fought for the right to have their babies, but to me, each friend is no more or less part of their spiritual path because of it. It is not my place to judge, so I don't. I would never propogate negativity against pro-choice groups who are a bit more on the pro-abortion side of the fence, because I believe they 100% have every right to believe and talk about what they believe. Do I not promote negativity because of my faith? Not exactly. I believe that my faith helps keep me grounded and in being grounded I can see that differences of opinion are good and healthy. I believe everyone has a right to feel safe, validated, and heard.

I don't say all this to be all "look at me, I'm showing my faith better than you", because I know I'm not. I'm not perfect and I'm just doing the best I can each day. Somedays I'm judgemental and somedays I'm not! Somedays I'm easy going and open minded and other days I'm not. I simply happen to agree with the Pope that the internet shouldn't be used to promote oneself through negatively discussing religion and spirituality. If I disagree with someone about faith, then we disagree, so what?! That's okay!

Kindergarten Registration

2011-01-21T13:57:00.000-07:00

The countdown for kindergarten registration has begun! Morgan is super excited and I am happy for him (I type with teeth clenched, telling myself that I'm happy) Of course, truth being said I'm very happy for him, because he's so happy and looking forward to it. For me, I'm sad, because that means that in a few short months he will be away from home for hours out of the day, everyday, EVERYDAY!!! That's a long time and I'm going to miss him. Missing him is a part of loving him however and that's actually a good thing. It's just like when I was pregnant with him and it occured to me that after he was born I'd have to start sharing him. It was a challenging emotion then and it's challenging now. I know that it's "normal" to hurt when you have to let them go, even when it's only by little bits at a time. The thing is too, that, it's not even all hurt and sadness, the emotions of kindergarten are also happiness, being proud of them, and in awe in how amazingly grown they are. There's a whole whack or feelings, good and not great, together.

So, next week I'm going to take my very grown little man to a school and register him. I'm going to smile and be happy and excited for him. I'm going to tell him about all the wonderful things he'll learn and all the people he'll meet. Later, after he's sound asleep, I'm going to cry a little, because I love him and this is a very big milestone. I'm going to cry just a little, just like I do on every birthday, not because I'm sad that he's older, because I'm so grateful, happy, and blessed to have him that sometimes the emotion has nowhere to go but out my eyeballs. Then, in a few months I'm going to walk him to that same school and I'm going to do all the same things that will happen next week. Then I'll do it again the next day and the day after that. Eventually it won't be so emotional, that is until the first school play or his first report card when I'll cry, just a little, again!

I Have my New Rainbow Flag!

2011-01-10T20:32:00.000-07:00

So, this morning I asked for help on a new pride flag or widget or colours or something for my blog, as the one I originally had was disabled a few months back.
I received some good suggestions, but nothing seemed to fit and then, another light bulb moment ~ Why not simply create my own representation using the computer's Paint Program. So I made my very own Pride Flag jpg on my very own computer and I think I did a half decent job for someone with little to no graphically, creative skills!

Here is my finished product, free for anyone to use if they ever get the hankering:

Although very simple, it represents everything that's wonderful about the Pride Colours!

Red ~ Light
Organg ~ Healing
Yellow ~ Sun
Green ~ Nature
Blue ~ Harmony
Violet ~ Spirit

Pride Flag Anyone?

2011-01-10T11:45:00.000-07:00

A couple months ago my pride flag widget was disabled and I've been desperately seeking a new one. This morning it occured to me, light on!!! Why not ask readers and friends to share their pride flag photos with me with their permission to use it on my blog and credit to the photo given, of course?! The only condition is that it has to be your photo, not one randomly from the internet :) This could be fun!

My alternative idea is for peole to let me now of banners and tags on LGBT websites, specifically for posting on blogs and other websites, that I can go to. I'd much appreciate the networking of sites as well.

For those interested you can either leave a link in the comments section below or email me @ elizabeth_metcalf@hotmail.com

Thanks for your help!!!!

Why I Stopped Wearing Make-up

2011-01-04T12:00:00.000-07:00

Over the last few years my make-up wearing has become less and less, to the point where I don't wear any. It's not that I can't be bothered with it or that I don't feel beautiful enough or anything like that, it's quite the opposite. I've all out stopped wearing make-up, because I figure that I'm good enough the way I look and I don't see the point in trying to make myself look different for other people. I look the way I look and I'm fine with it. I attempted going back to make-up, more out of a feeling of obligation, a few months ago and it felt so unnatural and flat out gross on my skin that I haven't even considered it since. Now that's not to say that I don't use a nice lip balm or something, but that's not for looks, it's for lip comfort. Alberta can be a very dry place to live, weather wise!

I don't begrudge or judge any other woman who wears make-up. If you like it, then by all means wear it. My questions is, why are you wearing make-up? If you're wearing it to look better for other people only, are you okay with that? Do you wear it to feel better about yourself and if so why does it make you feel better? I'm curious. I know that I wore make-up for one reason only, to look better in the eyes of other people. For me, that's the wrong reason. I like being who I am and how I look! I'm extremely comfortable in learning who I am without the coverup. When you think about it that's all make-up is, it covers up who we really look like. I think that we don't need to be enhanced, because our beauty is perfect just the way it is. Why add different shades of this and that to something that is already perfection, because it's real?!

The real beauty of a woman's face is the same as a man's, with all it's lines, colour, and blemishes. How can people know you're tired if you don't look tired? Our faces show how we feel! If we're embarassed or excited we blush, but who sees our emotion if it's blocked by paint? If we're tired or ill our eyes darken or our face changes a bit ashen, but who can tell if we've covered it all up? If I wore make-up again would it make me look "better" or "more beautiful"? Maybe in the opinion of some, but in my opinion (which is the opinion that matters in this case) I'd look less real and looking real is what makes people beautiful.

I really don't want other women to get all insulted and think that I'm somehow attacking them for wearing make-up. Again, wear it if you like it. I don't, because I don't see why I should change who I am, no matter how temporarily, for anyone. I wore it for the wrong reasons and my not wearing it has become freeing beyond my wildest imagination. I used to be one of those people who wouldn't even pop by the corner store without "my face on". When you stop and think about it for half a second that's quite self-concious of me. Who really cares what I look like and why does it matter? Vanity is a very slippery slope for me. It creates self-doubt and feelings of not being good enough, masked by "beauty". Well, the flip side of vanity is considered humility. It offers a sense of comfort, assuredness, and freedom. Being humble in my appearance has helped me see that I'm fine the way I am. Humility has gotten such a bad reputation from what I've noticed, but I urge anyone to just try it out for a few days.

When it comes to make-up wearing, maybe go to the movies or get some gas without your make-up on. After that try going to work for a few days without it. Yes, there will be comments like "you look tired" or "you look different" and when they crop up ask yourself, "am I tired?" If you're tired, then you should look tired. It's not a slam against you, it's real. Just try it and see, because if you're like I was and couldn't possibly imagine going out without your make-up on, then you're just the lady who needs to go out without make-up! If it's scary, emotional, or just too hard, then maybe there's a deeper reason and just maybe you do need to find out who you really are without it. I'm just saying that maybe if you try it you'll like yourself more and you'll see the real you, probably for the first time since you were a teenager! Maybe the reality of you is more beautiful than all that make-up.

Almost a New Year!

2010-12-30T12:41:00.001-07:00

I'm in the process of making mac & cheese for Morgan for lunch, yes, the lunch of champions and I'm contemplating my year. 2010 has been filled with many challenges, but more importantly many blessings! We were fortunate enough to move into a place with a backyard, deck, and some garden space. I was even more blessed once living here, to have the space and opportunity to have family stay with us more easily. My family rallied around and has been so helpful as I'm getting back to health and I fully believe that it's all of them combined who have made life so happy for me to focus on positives. Adam's parents joined us in our Alberta Adventure, by moving to Airdrie too. It's been fantastic having family here all the time, they are both so helpful and their friendship is even more important to me than the fact that they are family!!! (Hmmm....the water's not even boiling yet on the mac & cheese, so I have more time) My husband was blessed with a great job this year and although I have my moments with the night shifts and on-call shifts, all in all it's been a wonderful opportunity that will help us have a comfortable future. Comfortble future, those are words I've dreamed of saying!!! We also got to add a beautiful dog to our family and let me say, I've been so happy to have her here and share my evenings with her.

We've changed a few things too in 2010, we discontinued homeschooling and Morgan is now in preschool. It was a healthy decision for us and everyone is the happier for it. I'm still a huge advocate for homeschooling and I plan to do whatever I can to supplement the public education, because they can't teach everything, nor should they. There are many things that are the parents responsibility to teach and I intend to teach them happily! We also came to the spiritual conclusion that catholicism wasn't for our family and we went back to the United Church. She is the best compromise between all our beliefs, where everyone gets spiritual nourishment and no one has to compromise on the basic principles of his/her belief. It's been an amazing journey so far!

Now, with 2010 almost over and 2011 almost here I find myself wondering if a resolution is up for this year or if a simple outline of intention is more appropriate. This coming year I intend to pray more, trust more, laugh more, love more, be present more, strive to be me more, and be more healthy. As a family I plan to travel a bit more, have more movie nights, be more forgiving, live a little easier, play more, and teach and learn more! I believe that 2011 will be marvelous and that with the help of my spirit and my faith I'll achieve all I'm meant to. I believe my family will flourish in many ways. I believe that all our challenges will be met with the strength and grace needed! I believe, because that's the main thing I've learned in 2010, to believe, and I intend to keep believing in 2011.

So, to anyone and everyone reading, Happy New Year! I hope a little bit of my believing is passed onto you and you believe that happiness is possible everyday!!!

The Most Precious Decorations to Receive!

2010-12-21T08:34:00.000-07:00

This past weekend Morgan had some surprise decoration baking, painting, and making to do at Gramma and Grandpa's. While he was over there secretly creating, Adam and I kept extremely busy with our final Christmas errands. We went to pick up our small artist, with no idea the surprise in store.

When we arrived our sweet angel faced child, happily gave us a fanstatic homemade card and a pretty box. Inside the box we found a little more than half a dozen ornaments all painted with ribbon and glitter. I looked at his face and the light that shone from him while Gramma explained that he made them himself. Grandpa added that Gramma got the recipe from the internet and Morgan went to town. He stirred, he rolled out the dough, he cut out every single piece, and they baked them in the oven. Then he painted every single one and added glitter, while Gramma helped with the ribbon.

I saw these beautiful creations that our son so lovingly prepared for us and cried, just a little. His little hands made them for US, us, because he loves us and wanted to make us happy. He loved even more that it was a surprise! Although Christmas is a few days away, this is one of the best presents I've ever received. I will cherish the love of Christmas that was so lovigly made by my sweet boy for his parents and I will forever hold on to that lit up face, the face of giving!

Playing for a Change: Imagine Video

2010-12-16T11:58:00.002-07:00

Imagine from PlayingForChangeFoundation on Vimeo.

Ten More Days to Enjoy the Beauty of it All

2010-12-15T14:28:00.000-07:00

With only 10 days until the big day I'm finding myself noticing and focusing on what matters most this year. I know it sounds cliche, but it's not about the presents nor is it about obligations, Christmas is about spending time cherishing the people you love.

I've been so enjoying CBC movie nights with Morgan and having chats about what those presents under the tree might be. For him it's still about the gifts, but I think he's learning how important traditions are and that those traditions are part of what embodies the spirit of Christmas. We've been having very frank and side-splittingly funny conversations about the baby Jesus and how, in Christianity, he's God's only son. I received a very, very well explained lesson from Morgan on the miracle of Hannukah during our talk about faith and miracles. I honestly have never heard it explained so well before! All of that time spent just hanging out together and learning from each other, has made me understand that my role as Morgan's mom is the greatest blessing I've ever been fortunate enough to receive. I want to go a bit further though, I'm also fortunate enough to recognize the blessing in the moment and be mindful of the gift I've received in him! Watching his little face light up when he gobbles the gingerbread house and snuggling on the couch for movies are moments that I get to keep forever and I savour them, because I know that one day he'll be "too big" for all that.

So, in 10 days I get to treasure another Christmas morning where my sweet boy's face is filled with joy and wonder. I get to carry on some of my traditions of danishes, donuts, and stove-top cocoa with Morgan and my family. Adam gets to carry on some of his traditions of family all around Christmas morning, Santa coming, and reading the Night Before Christmas. We get to continue some new things and enjoy each other. Santa is even bringing stockings for Gramma and Grandpa this year :) I can't wait to sit down and watch It's A Wonderful Life on Christmas Eve and see my four year old baby sleep. It's a time of great joy and I plan to revel in it, in all it's tired, happy glory!

Great Character Rocks and it's Ours if We Choose

2010-12-09T11:42:00.000-07:00

Does Character Matter? a post by The Old Geezer

After reading the above post I was inclined to comment and then realized that my comment would have been far too long, so I'm going to blog my comment instead.

I think that great character is the single most important thing for a person to exhibit. How people love, shows their character. How people assist others, shows character. How people react and act, shows character. Whether that character is a good quality or negative quality is not only in the eye of the beholder, but in the imprint of the soul of the person exhibiting the positive or negative character qualities. All the faiths, religions, and philosophies of the world hold true to the same basic character qualities for a person to live a happy life. Some of them include patience, humility, reverence, love, forgiveness, helpfulness, a good attitude, honesty, selflessness, and many, many others.  Our most sacred texts, like the Torah, the Quran, the Bible, Buddhist texts that are too numerous to name, and others teach these qualities.  The qualities that exhibit good character aren't something you do, they are part of who we are!

The only thing standing in the way of this utopic happy world of stellor character is free will and the desire for personal gain. Oh! I almost forgot, the fact that we as a people are not perfect. We make mistakes for many reasons. Sometimes, it's selfishness or pride or greed that stands in our way, but those things and lack of good character in those areas don't make us bad people. Let's not forget that one of the greatest signs of character is the ability to forgive!  If we aren't forgiving of others mistakes and lapses in judgement of character then perhaps we have to check and see where our own character lies and re-evaluate. This might sound idealistic to some, touting things like forgiveness and "people in glass houses...". It's not for me to say how someone's character is affecting his or her soul, that's for that person and God to decide. I just know that being judgemental is a negative character quality and it's a character flaw that I'm extremely, personally familiar with. Forgiveness is the fastest way to relinquish the effects of judgement. That's also not to say that you forgive and allow a person to continue harm, no, no, no. That's careless; however, all people are deserving of forgiveness, whether they are sorry or not. It has nothing to do with them, it has to do with the person doing the forgiving. Forgiveness frees the forgiver of the negative control that resentment, judgement, and possibly hate have over the soul and opens them up to exhibit the good character they already possess.

I personally find my example of positive character in the example of Jesus' and in people I know in my daily life. Jesus said that we are to love each other. He didn't qualify it with things like, "as long as they're good people" or "only if they're deserving", because Jesus knew that it wasn't our place to judge someone's worth for kindness and understanding. In that example, I see and learn from women and men in my life, that it's important to be understanding and thoughtful. We shouldn't be quick to judge or revoke our love, because we determine that someone doesn't deserve it. God loves us unconditionally and it's our job to show that kind of love to our family, friends, and even strangers. Again, that's not to say that we just allow harm into our lives, no. Sometimes the only way to show someone how much we love them is to not allow them the opportunity to harm us and we need to keep our distance, until that person learns what we've learned and that's the undeniable truth that he or she is deserving of love and forgiveness.

Some of the most honest examples of good character come from children. Just sit back and watch them, you'll see how they exhibit amazing character. You just might learn something, I know I do :) Little lessons that we've forgot along the way in adulthood, they still have and they are very willing to share. The next time a little one points out that you're not speaking nicely, maybe you should listen to them, instead of asserting authority. They call it like they see it and the rules for their behaviour should be no different than the rules for ours. I've been blessed with a spirited, outspoken child, who has my respect, because he requires the same from me as what I teach him. It's been one of my most valued lessons, the lesson of not being a hypocrit!

I'm most certainly not the prime example of great character, but I try. Sometimes I get it and sometimes I don't. Sometimes I'm open to ideas and sometimes I'm etremely close minded. Sometimes I'm quick tempered, not understanding, and other times I'm cool as a cucumber, ready to receive whatever gift has come my way. I've made many a mistake, but I've made my ammends where I can, forgiven myself and others, and I continue to keep myself in check (when I remember). I also know I've been forgiven by my Creator. Again, that doesn't make me some expert or perfect in character by any means. None of us are! Let me repeat, none of us are of perfect character. All of us are a work in progress. My work in progress is helped by my faith, my understanding family, and my love for my son. That love healed many things, but most of all, that love gave me the desire to be as good of a person as I possibly could.

Desire, in this way is a good character quality. Desire, like love, forgiveness, and the others, can't truely be appreciated without it's negative counterpart. Light can't exist without a bit of darkness, but the light outshines the dark. Much like, desire for good, outshines the desire for bad. It's all about choice and if we choose good, whether it be good character, good food, or good faith, we outshine the negative things within us and they slowly dwindle down to near nothing, but they stay just a little to remind us to appreciate the good we've chosen. We are so blessed! Whether we choose to see the blessings or not, they're still there. Whether we choose to see the good or not, it's still there.

These aren't ideas that I'm simply talking about to hear myself think, or natter on. I really, truely believe it. I believe that the days I exhibit positive attitudes and behaviour I'm making a choice. I also believe that I choose to be cranky, and negative. Either choice helps me learn and grow in life and faith. It also blesses me and it's my choices that determine whether I see my blessings and I'm happy or whether I miss those blessings altogether and experience a bad mood.

Today, I'm going to strive to be as strong and good in character as possible, not because it's pleasing to others, but because it's good for my soul.  With a little hope and prayer, I'll make the same choice tomorrow and if I don't, I hope I'll have the presence of mind to not waste my whole day in the other state of mind for too long!

Now Our House is a Real HOME

2010-12-05T20:31:00.000-07:00

After all the talking and deciding, we thought all we wanted was a cocker spaniel. Then we met Rory, a beautiful, 16 month old Golden Retriever. I didn't know I wanted a G.R. until I met her and she won my heart. She came from a very loving family, who simply didn't have the time to give her that they felt she deserved. They loved her so much that they wanted her to have an even better life than the one they could provide, which was a pretty good life. These wonderful people set out to find the best fit for Rory and we became the fortunate family to be granted the pleasure of bringing her into our family.

I get it now, Dog Love. When you see the prettiest dog in the world and you just fall in-love with her and know that she's meant to be added to your family. She's smart and loving, gentle, playful, obedient, and most of all, she's already bringing out the best in us, because we want to give her a happy life. You can tell that she's already been so blessed and by that we now feel honoured and blessed to have her in our lives! Rory! What a great name and what a great girl!

To Welcome a Dog or not yet?

2010-12-01T11:24:00.001-07:00

We've been talking a lot lately about welcoming a dog into our little family. We already have a cat, Stella, and she is a special little thing. Dogs, well she's not fond of them at first, but as long as they don't try to eat her she warms up after awhile. Dogs also seem to calm her down a bit, since she's a tad dominant and bites when her food bowl gets slightly low. We love her and all that entails!

Now a dog would be more work than our lovely feline, yes. Our reason for contemplating a pouch is for the love and comanionship that a dog can bring to the whole family. They are such a joy and I'd love to share my home and life with another little being. We are all dog lovers and of course puppies are cute; however, my only hesitation is the sometimes dreaded puppy years of drive me out of my mind, yet loving craziness. With that said, the work and that stage is worth all the effort when that sweet puppy comes into his/her adultness a little calmer, stable, and happy in his/her bliss.

When I say we've been talking about a dog, I mean that for the last 6 or 7 months we've been discussing breeds and what we're ready for and able to do. My husband loves big dogs, the bigger the better and I on the other hand recognize that a large breed dog would be too much of a challenge for me as a growing puppy since I'm rather small. It wouldn't be fair to the dog nor to me for me to be upset when I ultimately get injured from the poor, sweet, gigantor getting excited and jumping up and knocking me down. I prefer little dogs, but my Adam isn't fond of puppies that stay that way since he's a bigger guy and is terrified that he'll accidentally hurt the sweet, muffin sized creature. So, with that all weighed out we've atleast come to the consensus of a medium breed dog, one who is about 20-30 pounds full grown, give or take a few. A manageable, cuddly and trainable size on my end, yet big enough to play with and see when walking down the narrow hall on my husband's end.

We're really taking this decision seriously, since our last dog had to remain in Ontario at my families farm when we moved into our apartment in Alberta. A dog her size and temperment wouldn't have adjusted to life in an apartment and it was a very, very painful decision for us to find her a new home. It was the best decision for her though. She is extremely happy on the farm, with her other dog friends, ponies, and chickens. The sadness that it brought into our home to not have her with us was a lot and Morgan still cries sometimes, because he misses her so much. Because of this I want to ensure that when we do add a dog to our family again we do so for the right reasons, because we want to give love and teach love and help a sweet being become a member of our family! Although we will get love in return, I think that adding a dog to a family should be done out of the desire to give to the dog in order for it to be successful.

We still have some talking to do, but if we're ready now or later, we've pretty much agreed that a cocker spaniel will be the best breed for us, because we'll be able to give a cocker spaniel what he/she needs to be the best dog he/she can be! We had a cocker spaniel when I was growing up and she was a lovely temperment, loyal, happy, and a perfect size for everyone. I know the health issues that can come with the breed and we're prepared to for them if they happen. I think a cocker spaniel could make a beautiful addition to our family, when the time is right! Now it's just finding the right time :)

Christmas Holidays, according to Chilliwack, BC

2010-11-26T10:10:00.000-07:00

Chilliwack Times article ~ Chilliwack school bard puts Christ back in Christmas

I was watching CTV New Channel this morning and heard them report that Chilliwack, BC's school board voted unanimously to replace winter break on the calendar with Christmas holiday. Then, of course I sought out the news article above to have more info. After reading it and weighing it I say, Good for them! It is the Christmas holiday after all, because in Canada we get Christmas off to celebrate. I know, I know, my include this group and stand for this over here probably confuses you, but I simply call it like I see it. If our two weeks off followed traditionally with only the Winter Solstice, them it should be referred to as that. If the holiday was traditionally, specifically for Hannukah, then it should be called the Hannukah break. Here in Canada, those two weeks off are historically and still for Christmas, whether you celebrate Christmas or not, therefore it should be called Christmas. I don't believe there is anything exclusionary about it.

I further believe that my opinion on the matter has nothing to do with the fact that I'm a Christian. It's not a religous statement, it's merely calling something what it is. You don't need to be a Christian to believe that Jesus was born, just like you don't need to be a Buddhist to believe Siddhartha was a prince. Religion aside, the truth is no less the truth, because one doesn't believe in it or chooses to call it something else. So, let's allow Christmas to be Christmas!

On that note: Merry Christmas!

Elf Yourself is Here

2010-11-20T16:44:00.000-07:00

Elf Yourself by Office Max

Christmas Tree Day Weekend

2010-11-19T13:09:00.001-07:00

After a somewhat long week of resting and getting back on my feet from another one of my annoying stomach moments, I'm thrilled to announce that Christmas Tree Day is finally upon us. This Sunday we are putting up the decorations and writing our letter. We are also getting our very first nativity scene out and having a yummy dinner of wings, roasted potatoes and meatballs...combined with chips and other goodies too. It's a big day here in the Metcalf house, so big that it's becoming a weekend! I do believe that my wonderful husband will be putting up the outdoor lights this afternoon. Yippee!

This year, the Santa Claus Parade is being broadcast by CTV instead of Global, a little different it shall be not hearing Susan Hay's voice commentating the event, but I'm sure it will still be wonderful! Oh and the most exciting news of the pre-Christmas season is that the CBC Holiday Schedule is out and ready!!!! They're playing The Nativity this year too, which I'm hoping is the actual movie from 2006 which I've been longing to see. I'm over the moon!

In other news, I've decided that this years writing contest is not really in the plan for me anymore, but perhaps I'll give it another shot next year. My creativity is best used in my energy with family and I'm pleased and blessed to be able to have that energy to give them! Off I go to start the beauty and wonder that is Christmas!

Merry Christmas!

Remembrance Day!

2010-11-09T21:30:00.000-07:00

This Thursday, November 11, 2010 Airdrie's Remembrance Day service will be held at Genesis Place @ 10am. I'm so looking forward to sharing in it with our family and especially my son Morgan. It's so important to pass on the respect and reverence for veterans to our children. To get prepared for Remembrance Day, we'll be doing a craft, go through what happens at 11am and what it means. A little history lesson perhaps and a little rehearsal, so Morgan will know what's expected of him. My hope is that he'll take what he learns every year and what we show him through example and truely live that respect. Maybe he'll even pass it on to his own children someday.

We are very fortunate to be so free and we are also very fortunate to have people, some who we know and some who we don't, fighting in our place. We are fortunate and blessed to not have to see what our soldiers endure on our behalf. It is our duty to remember them, thank them and show our love for them on November 11th as well as the rest of the year.

In getting ready for Remembrance Day I say Thank you!

For more info:
A Day of Remembrance ~ Veterans Affairs Canada

National Novel Writing Month ~ What fun!

2010-11-04T15:43:00.001-06:00

After reading my friend's blog @ Timmies Run: I'm a writer I was super inspired by her venture to partake in the NaNoWriMo 2010. NaNoWriMo or National Novel Writing Month is an annual event for writers from all over the world to write with no-holds barred, no pressure, no strings, for the fun of it, reasons. The goal is to write a 50,000 word piece of fiction by the end of November. With my friend and fellow blogger taking the plunge I figured, hey why not?! I'll take stab at it too. If anything it will be a very creative writing exercise to brush up on the stories I have hiding in the back of my brain.
Like my friend, I'm starting a few days behind the rest, but with a little luck, perserverence and a relaxed attitude I'm sure to have fun trying. If I make the 50,000 word goal that will be awesome and if I don't, well then I'll try again next year! What fun.
In an effort to focus all my writing energy on this new task, I'll most likely take a break from blogging for a little while. This should be oodles of crazy fun! A writing project..yippee!

Seeing the Blessings ~ Perception, Perserverence or Pride

2010-11-03T13:21:00.000-06:00

I normally wouldn't consider the acquisition of things a form of blessing, but today I can't help but feel so blessed that my family has been able to have brand new living room furniture. Yes, furniture is a thing. It's also much more than that! Our new furniture is going to be a place for our family to be comfortable and visit, read, spend Christmas morning, watch a bit of tv, and movies perhasps. We've worked very hard to be in a place to buy something nice for our home and I think that hard work is a blessing as well, because it allows us to truely appreciate having something so nice.

I can't wait to curl up with a good book on my comfy couch with a cup of herbal tea, while my son plays. We've been given so many wonderful things in this life, so far and I'm sure that the blessings will continue.

That's not to say that the blessing always comes in the form of a "thing". Sometimes the blessing comes in the form of people, like my in-laws moving here or my Mom coming out to help me this summer. Sometimes the blessing comes in the form of nutrition for the body, as food and the ability to buy the food we need. At other times the blessing comes in the form of an obstacle that blocks our path so we'll go down the road we're meant to take, not the road we "want". Those blessings are the ones that are harder to see, because our ego and pride tend to get in the way. In those times our willfulness urges us to silence common sense. Yes, there are times when we need to plug ahead and perservere in the face of challenge; however, it's important to listen carefully to the blessing in front of you and receive the grace of wisdom to know the difference between perserverence and pride. Pride only gets in the way of the gentle nudge of guidance that is helping us in course correction.

I think that blessings and seeing them for what they are is a matter of perception as well. I can often look at a situtation and think, "why won't it just go my way? this sucks!", but if I step back and realize that maybe it's not going my way for a reason yet to be revealed to me, I calm down a bit and then a miraculous thing starts to happen, I trust. Once I trust, my perception changes from "why?" to "it's alright, there must be some other opportunity I need to be available for". Changing how I see the blessings before me, makes me greatful for things I didn't even know I wanted! Even apparently negative things or events are actually blessings. They're positive, because they're bringing me to where I'm supposed to be!

It's November!!!!

2010-11-02T15:02:00.000-06:00

It's now November, which only means one thing, it's time to break out the holiday tunes, clean the house from top to bottom, and gear up, hardcore for Christmas!
With Halloween passed, we had a lovely family time with pumpkin carving, trick-or-treating, and pre-school halloween parties. Morgan was a pirate this year and Daddy and Grandpa joined him as his crew. They were seriously adorable and ARGH in their bandanas, eye patch, and ear rings! Halloween is a huge event in our house and I strive to make it fun and exciting for my little man. He loves dressing up and the candy, oh the candy, of course it's his favourite part. My favourite part of Halloween is the next day, when it's officially November and the decorations come down and I can unapologetically gear up for Christmas! I love Christmas!
Christmas is the time of year when you can be and show happiness in all it's forms and others accept it graciously. It's when the world changes just a little bit everyday for the better. Christmas is a day, yes, but also a state of being. It's a state of beauty, wonder, joy, grace, and love. It's faith felt, not simply beieved or practised, it's a tangible energy! The feeling of Christmas is snuggly, safe, and free! It's the celebration of all the good in this world and the right to proclaim it's magnificence!

Effective Change in Attitude: It's for Our Boys, It's for Our Men

2010-10-26T19:14:00.001-06:00

Cut Men: Do They Not Bleed? by Wendy McElroy
After reading the above article I was reminded of a post I wrote entitled Father's are More than Capable, back in August. How we treat our sons, husbands, fathers, grandfathers, and uncles is important to understanding who we really are and even who we've become. I've been asking myself where these often offensive portrayals of men in our culture have come from or where it started. The university graduate in me was intrigued, but more importantly the mother in me needed to know. I needed and need to know, because one should educate themselves on an issue if they plan to implement effective change.

So I embarked on the first leg of my research, by exploring what this discrimination of men is all about and where it seems to be rooted. It wasn't long before I found the following publications:
Spreading Misandry: Teaching of Contempt for Men in Popular Culture by Paul Nathanson and Katherine K. Young and by the same authors Legalizing Misandry: From Public Shame to Systemic Discrimination against Men. Nathanson and Young explore how our culture and society expresses misandry, which is the reverse of misogyny. Misandry is the contempt or hatred of men, like misogyny is the contempt or hatred of women. I briefly read a few sections of each and found them to be informative for what I was able to read. I further found them a verification of what I've been observing with respect to popular culture and how men are depicted. Gone are the days of Heathcliff Huxstable and Rev. Camden as media examples of remarkable, caring fathers, unless you count re-runs.

In this quest of education I also came across:
The Effect of Feminism of Canadian Society ~ a talk by Barbara Kay. Some of the ideas in this article I'm grappling with since I disagree with the idea that feminism is the "reason" for the "breakdown of the traditional family". Feminism, in it's true form, is the desire and movement for women to be treated as equal.  It is due to feminism that we (the royal feminine We) have the vote, maternity benefits, work place protection, and a vast array of other remarkable opportunities that would have otherwise not come to pass. With that said, I do agree with Kay's opinion that men have become the "enemy" and misandry has essentially become acceptable as a result of feminism turning into a radical form of itself. Radical is the important word here, not feminism. Anything that swings to the far side or edge of where it started is often marginalizing and harmful, regardless of how amazing it began. It's a very normal thing to subvert something or someone to bolster yourself or your cause, why would feminism be any different? I argue that this behaviour is unnecessary. I don't diminish the traditional family, simply because I support same-sex families. That would be counter-productive in my view. Similarily, bringing down and disenfranchising men is counter-productive to women. I believe that there are many women who support feminism and are against gender inequity of men. Feminism was and is about equality, not the walking over of men to become empowered women.

After all that, how do we, no ~ let's start smaller. How do I turn these things around into positives for my family. How do I ensure that my husband, son, father, father-in-law, and other men know that they are fully welcome in my life as the men they are?  I'm taking some of my cues from the first article above by Wendy McElroy and a few things from my daily life that just might help:
1.)  Take a personal stand, by refusing to engage in anti-male conversations. "For example, don't laugh at      jokes that skewer "all men," including your infant son" (McElroy article)
2.)  Thank your husband, father, and significant men in your life for the good things they do and encourage them, as you expect them to encourage you
3.) If your son does things that are in-turn upsetting, refrain from referring to those things as "male" or negative because of his gender. Allow for the situation to become a teaching moment as a person instead.
4.) Allow the men in your life to be and do things differently and let that be okay. Not because they're men, but because they're people and every individual expresses themselves in different ways.
5.)  Don't re-wash the floor after your husband just did it. Say thank you instead. If you washed the floor and your husband came up behind you and said, "let me do that, you're doing it wrong anyway" that would be very hurtful, so why do it to him?
6.) Talk about men's attributes in front of your sons. Show them examples of great men and boys.
7.) Whatever you'd think to do to encourage girls, do that for your boys. Tell them they're handsome!
8.)  Get respect by showing respect, in other words say your sorry
9.) Allow the father of your kids to have equal say in raising them
10.) Keep an open mind and be willing and ready to change the way you speak if it's offensive to men, they have feelings too.

Let me finish by saying that I don't think I'm perfect, but I do think I can change and so can other women. I think that building up the men in our lives is more important than "being right". I think that every kind of change has to start somewhere and if that means that I'm the odd-ball for choosing to value my men, then so be it. If I am painted as some sort of traitor to women, then that's okay, because I'll be sleeping at night knowing that the men in my life know that I love them for who they really are not who society tells me they are simply because they're men.    I'll be basking in the protective, loving nature of my guys and trying to show them that they are awesome in all their manliness, whether that manliness comes in the form of a country singer, a contractor, a guy who plays tea-party and dress-up with a four year old, or a man who turns the bed down for me!!!

Congrats Adam!

2010-10-22T10:18:00.000-06:00

Airdrie Echo ~ City workers hit the road-eo

Congratulations to my husband Adam and finishing "fourth in the skidsteer event with a score of 218." at the 13th Annual Equipment Roadeo in Red Deer, in September. See the article above for all the details! I'm so proud of him!

The "Let's See" Project

2010-10-22T09:41:00.000-06:00

With the new season premieres this season and the urge to watch them I had a new challenge for myself. Really, it was a "let's see" project. I decided to watch only things that were comedies or family dramas, with no violence or very, very little. Well, I must say that it was a little harder than I thought, because everything that I had watched before was either a crime drama or hospital drama. I loved my Private Practice and Grey's Anatomy, but I love me more.

I should have started by explaining why I ventured out on this new task. Basically I've been taking small steps in heath and healing over the spring and summer. Part of those steps have been to rid my life of as much negativity and stress as humanly possible. The first step was to simply not watch my favourites in stressful, violent, nail biting re-runs to curb the nightmares. I just figured that such a large dose of stress hormone right before bed wasn't the best idea in my healing journey. I never thought that I would take it on as a new challenge or tv watching style come season premiere time. My plan was that it was only temporary, until I was feeling better.

Well, I'm feeling better and I'm still abstaining from the stress shows. After being away from them for a few months over the summer I got to thinking ~ If I was striving for full health of the body, mind, and soul then should I be filling my mind with things that upset me, on purpose? Wouldn't watching highly stressful programs be doing the same thing to my mind as sitting down and eating an ice cream sundae with whiped cream, when I've been dairyfree for 5 months, do to my body? I asked myself these questions and others and determined that all of my hard work would be thrown out the window if I gave in to my previous tv watching schedule.

This year I'm watching lots of comedies. My new favourite comedy is The Big Bang Theory, hilarious and I can't believe I was missing it for other programs before. That Sheldon just makes me chuckle. I really enjoy The Middle and Modern Family. I've also gained an appreciation for the family dramas Parenthood, Brothers & Sisters, and No Ordinary Family. Yes, they're still dramas, but they're not full of violence and unnecessary gore. I've got a whole new outlook on television. It's taken me till 29 years of age to realize that I can watch what I want instead of watching whatever's on. It's silly really, that an educated woman like myself was watching things to "fit in" so to speak, instead of watching things for enjoyment and fulfilment. My one guilty pleasure for the week is still Desperate Houswives, it's more caddy than stressful :) I have my few "reality" shows too, but I've cut out the super negative ones like Hoarders and Intervention. Those ones were like gawking at a car wreck to me, so upsetting. Yes, it's good that these people are getting help for their problem, however, I don't like the sensationalism of it all. I do like 19 Kids & Counting and the new show Sister Wives. I enjoy seeing how other families are made up and how they do things. I also get some really good ideas of things that might work for my family sometimes.

I know that it might be silly to devote an entire bog post to television, but it is honestly a large part of the average persons life and I'm an average person who's made some changes in that department of living. So far, although a bit challenging, it's been an extremely positive change. One of the biggest improvements is having more time to do other things. I've completed a cross-stitch this month and I'm over half-way through my second book of the season! Can I get a Woo Hoo to a shift in priorities!!!!

This has been a project, a choice that Rocks!

Wednesday is Spirit Day!

2010-10-18T23:02:00.000-06:00

http://www.glaad.org/spiritday

Spirit Day is this Wednesday, a day where we are being asked to wear purple to honour those who have died as a result of anti-LGBT bullying and to show our support for the LGBT community.

I'll be wearing purple, will you?

The Unofficial Results are In....Peter Brown, Mayor

2010-10-18T22:36:00.000-06:00

2010 Unofficial Airdrie Municipal Election Results (Link to the results page on the City of Airdrie website)

Peter Brown has unofficially taken the mayoral spot with 4,047 votes

The unofficial six alderman are:

Murray Buchanan with 4,926
Fred Burley with 4,020
Kelly Hegg with 3,971
Ron Chapman with 3,462
Glenda Aleander with 3,251
Allan Hunter with 2,257

As for Dave Pollard, he received 1,680 votes! Dave ran a great campaign and I sincerely hope that he runs again in 3 years! The difference Dave is already making in the lives of the people of Airdrie is truely remarkable and I'm sure that difference will continue to be felt, whether he is in public office or not.